Glass child

This is something I worry about all the tiny. It's not easy raising two children with special needs. We spend so much time making schedules and planning doing things to make sure our daughter is calm, doctor appointments and therapy. And our oldest has doctors appointment, specialist, physical therapy and extra help needed to help him.

There is hand book to make this easy. I have no idea if I'm doing anything right. I don't feel like it most days.

Then you add in our youngest. Sometimes I can see it in his face as we talk about all their appointments, all the things we need to do for them. How busy our week is because of what we need to do for them.

Sometimes he'll ask what about me, do I have any appointments. Most of the time he doesn't, other than his counseling appointment twice a month. He'll say what about me, or do I have an appointment. I'll point out to him if he does and remind him the days he gets to pick dinner and when his volleyball practice is. But sometimes he still looks a little sad.

Sometimes I feel bad that we can't be a spur of the moment family. Everything is planned out for the week, meals, appointments, activities. Sometimes he'll ask dad can we do this tonight or eat this for dinner instead. I always have to say not this week buddy but we'll plan it next week.

I hate that. I don't want him to feel lost or that he's not as important as they are. That his feelings matter too. I am trying so hard to make him feel this but I don't think I am. Sometimes he just looks sad.

How do I make sure he's feeling as important as them.