Long talk with my boy

Oh my tiny tornado. I love him so much and I felt so bad for yelling at him last night. I think it's the first and hopefully the only time I ever do. I am so mad at myself right now

So i sat him down to have a daddy son meeting.

I told him how sorry I was that I yelled and I'm I didn't mean to. Bi was just really scared and worried about Sissy

He said it was ok and he knew he did a bad thing last night.

I asked him why he went in there

Because the door was open

Bubby come on you know better.

Well I just wanted to look dad her room is so cool

I get that but why did you touch her violin.

He looks down at the ground

Because mommy gave it to her and I don't have anything special mommy gave me before she moved away.

His boy just broke me. I gave him the biggest hug and we both cried.

I took the day off work because she is still asleep and I didn't sleep at all last night. So I let him stay home as well.

I won't do it again.

I know bubby it's ok

I was going to get on to him about the once again unplugging her Air pods but that can wait for another day.

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Nebula · 41-45, F

Awww ☹ you're a good Dad

Summer2025 · F

@Nebula no he's not did you even read his post. he's the worst dad ever

RockerDad · MVIP

@Summer2025 if he wasn’t a good dad, he wouldn’t be questioning himself about it. He’s already feeling bad about it, and you’re only adding to it, with comments like this.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@RockerDad thank you, yeah my special friend here was been trolling me for a while now. I had her blocked at one point but I guess she made another account with a similar name. I don't know. But yeah she really hate me.

RockerDad · MVIP

@Cigarguy101 it’s really easy to lose self confidence as a parent, especially a single parent. It never feels like you’re good enough.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@RockerDad you are so right. I never feel like I'm doing it right. Then I hear people say a guy like you has kids ok wow. I love them they are my reason for living. And days like yesterday kill me, hurt me so bad because I should of done better. I never would of left her door open if I wasn't exhausted or forget to set out dinner to defrost. So I just keep thinking about how I failed her, the boys Joel over and over. It sucks and I know I shouldn't feel like this but it's the crazy in my head and when I haven't slept in days it gets so bad

Nebula · 41-45, F

@RockerDad Amen

RockerDad · MVIP

@Cigarguy101 the problem is when you lose your self confidence as a parent, it makes it harder to do the right thing the next time, because you question yourself then too.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@RockerDad every single day my friend

RockerDad · MVIP

@RockerDad i foster adopted my son as a single dad , and every parenting decision I made was scrutinized and criticized by the social worker. Every month, I would get a copy of her report, which was page after page of what a bad parent I was. Never anything positive. It sort of paralyzed me every time I had to make a decision about anything. Parenting is messy sometimes,, and it is never the way it is on TV, where everything is solved at the end of the episode. Also, being a single dad, everyone around me felt like they had the right to weigh in on how I should parent my child. Even though it was well-meaning, it really bothered me. At the end of the day, I’m sure you make ten right decisions for every wrong one. You’re a good dad, because you care about being good dad. Don’t let other people’s bullshit get into your head.

RockerDad · MVIP

@Cigarguy101 that is a huge pitfall you need to learn to avoid.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@RockerDad wow I'm sorry that happened to you. People can be cruel and just say what ever in on their mind. I think social media was taken everyone's care away.