How do the single moms do it?

I’m grateful my son got to go to daycare and I had time to clean and look for work. The hard part is looking for a job with no weekends , which is hard as hell, I’m grateful to have the people in my sons daycare even though I gotta pay them for days i work . God this hard, the jobs I come across find my schedule difficult because I need weekends off idk wat to do

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LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

You need to enlist some help such as daycare or trusted friends or relatives.
You need a break too, that's how you do it. You have your own life.
The more you take care of yourself the more you have to give to your child.

zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON Totally agree which is why I changed from full time to part time. My ex has never worked full time in the time I've known her (since 2013) and only works 3 days a week now. You're right about needing a break to recharge - personal time is important for a parent just as much as it is for a child.

Dreamland98 · 31-35, F

@LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON thank you I’m really trying!!

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@Dreamland98 Of course you are. Just also take care of yourself, that's the thing.

I did not appreciate nor did I agree with that idiom, or it's a metaphor (cliche maybe by now), which I heard, when my child was very little and I was in school F/T.
And this saying goes something like this:
[quote]If you and your baby or child are in an airplane, and there is some problem and the oxygen mask drops down, and there is only one mask: Who do you give it to, yourself or your baby?
[/quote]
I immediately knee-jerk answer, is of course my baby!
And they said, well, okay, but if you faint or whatever, who then will be able to take care of your baby?
Alright. I got what they were trying to convey.
Ideally, we'd share the oxygen (and I have seen it on TV).

But, that metaphor has merit.
If we are depleted we are grumpy and short.
If we give to ourselves, we are better, peaceful and we have more to give to our child.

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

@zonavar68 I think in Italy they have a break at midday and rest or whatever.
We (N.A.) are a mentality of work like crazy,
not work to enjoy life, but work so you can live, and that's backwards.

Dreamland98 · 31-35, F

@LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON I I agree, if we cannot take care of ourselves first how can we care outlet children so sad right@LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON