I don’t know how I’m going to react when I find out I’m not pregnant. 😞
I know either way, it will be for the best, but I always wanted to be a mom. Adopting is too expensive and so are IVF, and surrogacy. 😭
26-30, F
SteelHands · 61-69, M
50 YEARS AGO.
My would be wife and I discussed if we were to have kids how many.
I told her that my life plan was to marry and produce six. She countered with 3. We agreed on 4.
38 YEARS AGO. By the time she reached number 3 at age 27 she had a challenging pregnancy, nearly died giving birth but still wanted to have the 4th. However, it was, I considered, wise to wait a bit. There was a 3 year wait after her first. A five year wait after her second birth.
33 YEARS AGO 5 years later we tried again and though she thought she was pregnant it turned out to be a delay in her cycle. And soon, a few months later we were on track for a fourth child. In month 4 she miscarried.
Since 2 of her sisters and one of mine had kids at that age we thought there was no problem in the timing but later found out that two of them were high risk and highly monitored, preceded by the miscarriages we hadn't been aware of. When her physician informed her that pregs in the 30s are generally more or less higher risk for most it surprised us. Our parents and grandparents as well. In 1990 there wasn't much curiosity regarding this among our families and friends.
15 YEARS AGO. All our and our siblings kids had reached middle age. Of the females that now are married or living with a spouse of the opposite sex long term, except the one that became a single mom at a very young age, three kids before she was 24 all from different fathers. Two didn't bear any one not by choice and the other claims it was her choice but I know she's lying. I won't call her out on it since she probably feels bad enough as it is. Three others had only one, and another had 3 that is now decreased.
TODAY Its no longer a secret in our group that having kids ten years after becoming an adult is not very easy. It's especially not very easy if you've been suppressing your reproductive organs with the pill. If you want to have kids someday but right now you want to put it off, don't be too surprised that's not how that works.
ARGUE IF YOU LIKE. GO INTO DENIAL IF YOU MUST. CITE DOZENS OF EXCEPTIONS TO THIS RULE.
You can be just as smug as my kids kids grand neices and nephews but that's not going to alter reality or make your feminist preaching professor right.
Just sayin.
The thing is.. though married, waited until they could, the usual reasons, "afford" starting a family, completed their degrees, became established in their careers, bought that house, started that college fund, felt secure in their relationship, needed the deduction. Turns out that was just brainwashing bs like I tried to tell them all starting 20 yrs ago but they wouldn't listen. Maybe someone who reads this will. Because taking the brightest most decent parents and telling them a career is more important than the living legacy you leave behind is something only a very deluded person or a vile enemy of your peeps.
U know what I mean.
My would be wife and I discussed if we were to have kids how many.
I told her that my life plan was to marry and produce six. She countered with 3. We agreed on 4.
38 YEARS AGO. By the time she reached number 3 at age 27 she had a challenging pregnancy, nearly died giving birth but still wanted to have the 4th. However, it was, I considered, wise to wait a bit. There was a 3 year wait after her first. A five year wait after her second birth.
33 YEARS AGO 5 years later we tried again and though she thought she was pregnant it turned out to be a delay in her cycle. And soon, a few months later we were on track for a fourth child. In month 4 she miscarried.
Since 2 of her sisters and one of mine had kids at that age we thought there was no problem in the timing but later found out that two of them were high risk and highly monitored, preceded by the miscarriages we hadn't been aware of. When her physician informed her that pregs in the 30s are generally more or less higher risk for most it surprised us. Our parents and grandparents as well. In 1990 there wasn't much curiosity regarding this among our families and friends.
15 YEARS AGO. All our and our siblings kids had reached middle age. Of the females that now are married or living with a spouse of the opposite sex long term, except the one that became a single mom at a very young age, three kids before she was 24 all from different fathers. Two didn't bear any one not by choice and the other claims it was her choice but I know she's lying. I won't call her out on it since she probably feels bad enough as it is. Three others had only one, and another had 3 that is now decreased.
TODAY Its no longer a secret in our group that having kids ten years after becoming an adult is not very easy. It's especially not very easy if you've been suppressing your reproductive organs with the pill. If you want to have kids someday but right now you want to put it off, don't be too surprised that's not how that works.
ARGUE IF YOU LIKE. GO INTO DENIAL IF YOU MUST. CITE DOZENS OF EXCEPTIONS TO THIS RULE.
You can be just as smug as my kids kids grand neices and nephews but that's not going to alter reality or make your feminist preaching professor right.
Just sayin.
The thing is.. though married, waited until they could, the usual reasons, "afford" starting a family, completed their degrees, became established in their careers, bought that house, started that college fund, felt secure in their relationship, needed the deduction. Turns out that was just brainwashing bs like I tried to tell them all starting 20 yrs ago but they wouldn't listen. Maybe someone who reads this will. Because taking the brightest most decent parents and telling them a career is more important than the living legacy you leave behind is something only a very deluded person or a vile enemy of your peeps.
U know what I mean.
Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
@SteelHands I appreciate what you wrote, but I am confused as to why you wrote it. I guess my brain isn’t working. Are you saying waiting isn’t a good idea?
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Justbekind24 Sorta this. If one female out of seven billion beats the odds at something, there's no reason to be optimistic.
But for a nominal fee and service charge I can lie about it even chemically defy nature and perhaps, nobody will even be harmed in the process.
A hundred k should do it.
But for a nominal fee and service charge I can lie about it even chemically defy nature and perhaps, nobody will even be harmed in the process.
A hundred k should do it.
LadyInBlack · 18-21, F
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
@AngelUnforgiven I’m not and who knows if I ever will be. My period is 6 days late and the pregnancy test was negative yesterday.
FORMERLYbatovn · 61-69, M
SomeMichGuy · M
I be always wanted to be a mom.
Ignoring the first "be"...really? Always?
I hope the right thing happens for you.
Justbekind24 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy thanks for catching the typo. I was very upset when making that post.
SomeMichGuy · M
@Justbekind24 Np & of COURSE you were. 🥺
Bleak · 36-40, F
Relatable 😞
Making babies is fun though. If you are not prego, you get to continue. Not a bad deal IMO.
Yknow0508 · 22-25, M
Can i try to get you pregnant?
Fertilization · 36-40, F
[@Yknow0508 This is not funny I guess. All she meant is that she is on some medication which is not safer for pregnancy.
Fertilization · 36-40, F
@Yknow0508 I am not doubting your intentions. All I am saying is she is not fine physically to become a mother.
Dude, we don't needs no more peeps
Reason10 · 70-79, M
If you are pregnant, congratulations. You are in for the absolute HAPPIEST time of your life. The second HAPPIEST time will be maybe 25 years later when your child presents you with a grandchild.
The BEST years of my life were that as a father. I wouldn't trade them for anything.
The BEST years of my life were that as a father. I wouldn't trade them for anything.