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Why can't I just prove myself?

Yesterday, my dad got me a lock, to lock up my bike, and then he asked why I wanted one so badly. I told him that I wanted to ride it to the library. He was a bit weird about it, and scared about the cars (since some parts of the road had no sidewalk), but he gave him.

Today, I actually rode my bike to the library and back. The thing is though, I came home with a tick (I got it off though). My dad then said, "That's what happens when you go outside. You bring ticks home." Now, he's upset (even though I got the tick off all on my own).

If it's not one thing, he has to make up something else to put me down. He's never supportive on anything I do. Everything that I do he points out something negative.

With my drawings, he asks, "why is the drawing so depressing? That's not healthy. Why not something more happy? Who asked you to draw this?" or "who told you to draw like this?"

I just can't do anything to please him, and prove to him that I can be responsible. It makes me upset and sad. I don't know what to do anymore.
SW-User
Honey don't sweat it. We must all make biiig mistakes while treading on the path of learning responsibility. Some parents are very controlling and overprotective, and while they may be doing so out of care and love, their execution isn't right. Maybe that's how they were raised and they think it's right for you too, but it's not. We all learn differently. So don't take his criticism.
Make the bones in your skeleton your home. I read that somewhere. But it makes sense. No one can tell you what's right or wrong in your mistakes as much as you as the learner can, from the pain of the mistake. Parents know, they might be harsh, but dig out the crux of their lessons, the ones that are positive, even if it's only one in your entire life . Ditch the negatives in the trash. Draw what you like. Sell it if you wish. Make your mistakes. Be disappointed. And learn. Make new mistakes...but forgive yourself for making old ones again. You can be homeless, cold, struggling. But don't ever tell yourself you're weak. Those bones, they're you. Not anyone's opinion of you. Be kind to yourself.
BlackBloodDemon · 22-25
@sloth: Very nice. What do you usually like to write about? I normally write fantasy with some romance taken place in medieval times.

And I agree. Art and literature should never die. It's too passionate even for death. Death is like, "Keep it away from me!"
SW-User
@BlackBloodDemon: I write poetry, and sometimes short stories. But they're all real-life based tragic ones. One I haven't started yet is going to be fantasy though.
BlackBloodDemon · 22-25
@sloth: Interesting. I've written some poems, but I don't really see myself being a poet. Even though it's super fun, I prefer writing stories more.

I base off my poems from the feelings of my characters from my stories.

And fantasy is always fun to write about. I hope your fantasy story goes well.
Arthur14 · 26-30, M
You know, I kinda know how do you feel. My dad always was the type of supportive guy,even if we have our differences. But if he is very openly to make me discover my only path, he's that kind of guy that pusses you to make the things, like entering in college or getting a job. This makes a lot a pressure on me. I used to feel like I needed to impress him, so I always tried to make good things to make him proud. But I lose a bit of myself in that process. I think I trying to say is, don't lose yourself for him. I don't know if that helps you though
Arthur14 · 26-30, M
@BlackBloodDemon: well, so I guess we are in the same broken boat. Just like all humans beings, we trying to get out of the bottom of the well and reach the sun.
SW-User
@BlackBloodDemon: wow. Your struggles seem a lot like mine. My dad is the same with my mom. But remember: if he's paying for your education, do NOT yell at him in even the maddest situations. Your mom wants to see you happy. Hence focus on the longterm. There's a reason she's still tolerant of a harsh man, and the reason is your betterment. So don't yell at him if he's paying.
BlackBloodDemon · 22-25
@sloth: Lol, he won't be paying for my college. My sister is currently in college, and she's living off of loans.

He may pay for some things here and there, but not all of it.

 
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