I've been single for a while but it doesn't feel like it

Probably because we still live together for now. It's complicated. I still don't want us to separate but there's nothing I can do about it anymore. She still gets mad at me for any little thing. I still struggle to fix the issues because my attempts make everything worse. Regardless if I'm right, wrong, or neutral.

We still sleep together & I'm still confused on the sexual aspect. She treats me like she doesn't wanna be with me but then she says stuff like "you don't wanna kiss me" or "you don't smack my ass anymore" & I'm just thinking "well I didn't know I was supposed to still 🤷" it's not like I just stopped because I don't like it anymore.

But it's tough because lately I'm thinking like... I kinda just feel used in a way. Like I'm not good enough to be with but I'm good enough to mess with if you're in the mood? It kinda hurts but I want to hold on still 😔 I know I should draw a line & say I can't continue the relationship like this if we're not even gonna be together but at the same time I'm afraid of doing that because I don't wanna lose it completely. & I know that all sounds stupid but she's the mother of my child & all I want is to be a family & see my kid every day. Nobody ever talks about this stuff from a dad's perspective though. We're supposed to just take the blame, take the BS, & chin tf up like everything's okay

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That sounds like a difficult situation. Wouldn't it be better for your child long term to set up boundaries? I get why people think it's better for children to grow up with both parents but it might be confusing to them when their parents live in such dynamic. It teaches them that fighting and manipulation are normal in families. And growing up they understand a lot more than what we give them credit for. What if they see either you or their other parent dating other people because you're "single" but then sleeping together as if nothing's happened. And maybe right now you're not open to dating but I see you're young and in the future this "relationship" could cause problems in your love life. Also if for any reason you can't get full custody, you might try moving very close and you don't have to not see your child every day. It might take more effort but your child will know that you'd do anything for them despite the difficulties. All the best to you!