I regret becoming a mom...

Before i got pregnant i had time to sleep and be lazy, thats what i miss the most. Now im always on edge. My mental health is declining and im on meds. Meds that make me feel drowsy but i cant sleep because i have a kid to take care of. I loved being in the gym. But im so tired and now i have flat feet i cant even walk a mile and do abs after. Im declining so bad.

Whats even worse is my mental health meds made me gain 100 something pounds. I look and feel terrible.
I dont regret my son 1 bit but motherhood isnt for me. And im trying to be strong. Idk how the hell other women had 3.. this shit is impossible to do

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LeopoldBloom · M

Thank you for sharing. This is a real taboo subject. Nobody is supposed to regret having children. In fact, many people do, they just don't talk about it. Louis CK had a routine where he said he loved his daughter, but regretted every decision he made that led to her birth. The Albert Brooks film Mother with Debbie Reynolds explores this exact issue.

Fewer people in your age group are having kids, and the reasons aren't just economic. More people are becoming aware of the absurd sacrifices and the toll children take on your mental and physical health, and are deciding that they don't want that, despite the pressure society exerts to make everyone think that their lives are meaningless without children.

All I can say is to hang in there. If you think it's bad now, wait until he's a teenager. But the relationship with an adult child is amazing if you can survive that long.