my mum is moody and stern with me at times

how can i cope with that? my mum lives far from me now and is elderly...she phones me 3x a day....and a lot of the time i just want her to mother me, but at times she has a stern and moody approach with me....i tend to talk to my mum about my worries, fears, my anxiety problems....and my mum is often understanding and motherly...but there's times she's not like that and is stern and moody with me..

i live alone now, lived alone 20 years in a little flat...so it gets me down when she's like that with me...as i just want to be understood and consolled when i'm going through it mentally.

any advice appreciated.

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4meAndyou · F Best Comment

Your Mum is a HUMAN BEING. Just as you do, she is bound to have moods...because she is HUMAN.

She is not some shining star of fairy tale mother love. Mothering is VERY hard work. Mothers have to correct and teach their children. And YOU are not a child any longer. You are a middle aged man!

Yet you still expect her to be kind and loving every moment. It must be overwhelming for her.
Ask yourself how often you give her good news? How often do you tell her that you are worried about HER? How often to you send her gifts?

SHE is facing her old age and her son will not be able to take care of her. Instead, her son ONLY worries about himself.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@4meAndyou i understood, but i do greatly care for my mother and my mother knows how much i love her, i can be self absorbed if anything which is due to my personality disorder...but what i got from your answer is that i need to be more understanding of when my mum has these times and not think about myself, but think about my mum and not be so self absorbed.. nobody's perfect, and i know i'm not, but i'm aware of my shortfalls and are working best as i can to put things right.

4meAndyou · F

@durinsBane1983 There you are! Right in one go! And thank you for best comment. Honestly, I am surprised. You display a degree of unexpected humility! Admirable!

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@4meAndyou your welcome, thanks so much.