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Been co parenting for 4 ish months to a 10 month old baby her dad want to do whatever he wants with no regards to her routine and keeps changing dates and tells me to cancel her plans for him. He's a first time dad and I have given him some slack but though court it has to be 3rd party visitations till he knows her and has confidence in himself that he can do look after her.

Any time I go to pick her up she's never fully dressed and he's always on his phone on two occasions he's not strapped her in and on his phone.
He the guy you would call a head worker likes to control everyone and everything and turn everyone against you and he has succeeded well in this that even my family worker says I need to cut him some slack.
We are in court again on 17th but he has applied to court for an emergency hearing as he is making up lies that I mentally and physically abusing my kids and making it out that I'm controlling everything yet I've asked him what days he has to work with and I've given times that work round babies schedule best. He isn't happy about anything and moans about everything.

I get it he's a first time dad but that shouldn't give him a right to twist everything and do whatever he wants and anytime I offer him help or if he asks advice he says I'm controling so we stopped most communication unless it's important information about our daughter and he still moans to don't communicate I've had to stop all visitations as he will not agree on anything and he's making demands and threats to my family.
I just don't understand how a guy can do so all about him when it's not about me or him it's what's in our daughters best interests and this definitely isn't what's best for her.
I really thought he would step up to be the dad that she needs but he's not stepping up at all.
He's just trying to control me again
ScarletWitch · 31-35, F
This is why you have to be careful who your having children with.
-Steve Wilkos
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
ScarletWitch · 31-35, F
@pancakeslam Get off my stage!
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
Broken homes are no good. Each parent has their own home to run and lives to live. Who you choose to have a kid with is the most important decision you’ll ever make. If you can, try to work it out with him and live together.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Quetzalcoatlus he isn't involved
Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M
@MiraRoss Why not?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Quetzalcoatlus because he abused us that's why
Sarafamily · 22-25, F
Your definition of control might just be an excuse to label others.
We are hearing a one sided story.
Which means he has one too..logical or not.
So before i personally give you my agreement or validation for the labels you placed on another, I'd like to hear his side.
I know thats unlikely because he probably isnt on here.
But you wouldn't like one to to label you within your own words being heard, would you ?
Just my opinion.
Sarafamily · 22-25, F
@MiraRoss prove it anyway. If he doesn't care after that at least you have legal proof
Sarafamily · 22-25, F
@MiraRoss I assume this is your only child ?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Sarafamily I do have proof of it all and court have it as I've sent it ahead of our meeting and why do you assume it's my first
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I don't think he'll fool the courts,but his willingness to slander you and put you thru all this craziness sounds like he has high narcissistic traits.
You are a first time mom?
If so, why are you not worth giving some slack,as well?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Justmeraeagain nah this is my 3rd kid.
Give me slack?
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@MiraRoss it was only if you were a first time parent then you would deserve the same kind of slack he was getting is what I meant
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Justmeraeagain ah okay I get you.
All I want is what's in my babies best interests nothing more nothing less. It's not about me or him just her but he thinks it's all about him
Sarafamily · 22-25, F
Nothing actually. But you posted the thread that started all this and you said you had when i suggested you get proof, so it was logical i asked what proof.
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
Have you any written messages?
Have you taken photos?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Strictmichael75 it's all through a court app so they can see it all
dale74 · M
Too bad you didn't see through him before you made the baby the baby is a wonderful gift but it's much better when it has two good parents it's easier on both parents
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@dale74 I was on the pill too it did me dirty found out 4 weeks after backing up with him I was pregnant was only with a month so not even together
Lilymoon · F
The baby is the one who's going to pay the price in all of this.

I hope you can get full custody tell the courts everything. and then perhaps move in with your parents or relatives?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Lilymoon I'm not with him not been for a year and half have my own place . Wasn't with him long and then 4 weeks after I left him found out I was pregnant
Djc57 · 56-60, M
Sounds like there are a series of disconnects here.
It sounds like he's the bad guy, but are you telling the whole story? Just curious.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Djc57 I am telling the whole story
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MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@jshm2 your crazy right? So just forget she's even here and toss her out
Sarafamily · 22-25, F
May i ask what proof you have that its his that you can show the court?
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Sarafamily what's that to do with you?
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