Do you think people that are in their 30s and older are wasting their time not having children?

I have a cousin that had her first child at 43 and she got criticized for it. She said she waited too young and there’s a risk for having babies so late and she should have got laid in her 20s.
My older siblings has children. My brother had his first child at 25 and my sister had her first at 26. Of cousin different years.
I’m 21 and I’m getting pressured to find someone. I’m not ready to be a mom and I don’t want a relationship. I’m done with them.

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iamnikki · 31-35, F

No, but it is very annoying because it seems no matter what a lady does, someone has something to say.

Teen pregnancy: "you should have waited till you are an adult or til marriage"

Baby at 20 years old: " that's too young, "you're not ready", "wait till you get career started"

25 with no kids: " when are you going to have kids", "when are you getting married"

30 with no kids: "what are you waiting on"? "You're not dating anyone???", " you're not getting any younger"

Woman of any age who doesn't want kids: "you're selfish", " you're gonna regret that choice ", " you'll want them someday".

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iamnikki · 31-35, F

@LaylaTheTallGirl what is what supposed to mean?

LaylaTheTallGirl · 18-21, F

@iamnikki that men have their whole lives to have children and women don’t?! That’s stupid! Women has that right too

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MaryDreamilton · 46-50, F

No, it's a personal choice. I'm nearly 48 and I've never had any children, although my three sisters have. Who am I to say how people should live their lives?

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think society keeps asking the wrong questions. It has nothing to do with age. It does everything to do with the life/upbringing you’re able to provide the child and waiting until someone can do that effectively. For some people, that moment never comes, either by circumstance, or choice, and that should be OK. For some people it takes longer. For some people opportunities come earlier.

Society pressuring people to bring children up into life of struggle just for the sake of making them is stupid though.