Teenage logic

When we moved into our new home I bought matching desks and chairs for my daughter and me to go in our very own home office. I am quite sure that I have never seen her use hers once. Homework is done on her bed, on the sofa, sitting on the floor . . even when we are in the office at the same time, she will be sitting on the floor rather than on her chair.

This afternoon her geography assignment appears to have got stuck to the sheepskin rug 🐑 When I ask for an explanation she just shrugs 🤷‍♀️ Occupational hazard of having to do homework, I guess 😐

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Scribbles · 36-40, F Best Comment

That's very heartwarming and sweet of you to try to make her comfortable and included in your office space by getting her a desk also to do her work at just like for yourself. I wouldn't be surprised if you let her pick out exactly what she wanted too!

Too bad kids are so hard to predict. Even she might not have been able to predict that she wouldn't be sitting there doing her homework either.🤷🏻‍♀️ Maybe she'll still want to use it in a few years either for homework or workspace for something else.

Silver lining: At least she's doing her homework :)

If I had a proper desk and chair at home, it would go more unused then not.
I have always preferred floor sitting over chairs my whole life out of comfort and habit.

Even as an adult, I like my desk and chair at work. And feel comfortable sitting there.

But at home, no thank you
I'll sit on chairs and couches at other people's houses but at home...nope. I like the floor best. For years my sofa in my apartment was mostly used by roommates and guests.

My preferred "working on homework" position was lying on the floor or bed or sitting on the floor with. Back against a wall or piece of furniture. When I was a kid, I preferred to be either wherever people commonly were (so I could keep an eye on everyone and know what was going on) or as far away as I could get.

For 4 years or so, I often used a lap desk. My grandmother (during a short visit) once showed my little brother and I how to make a lapdesk out of an old wooden board, an old shirt , some hot glue, and a big bag of rice dumped in the shirt as the cushion under it. This was the solution to the problem of the mysterious small ink spot on the carpet.

Perhaps your daughter might like a lap desk, if she likes to do homework in multiple places?
More likely than not, you're stuck with her doing her homework however and wherever. Just have to keep an eye out to prevent any problems as best you can that might happen from using non typical spaces as a workspace. Teenagers are at least as accidently destructive as young kids if not more, I imagine.

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@Scribbles Yes! The main thing is that she actually does her homework, without too much nagging from me. How she does it is not so important.

During her first weekend with us back in January she was so hyped up that I couldn't get her to focus at all on the work she needed to do for school. Until I was driving her back to the childrens home at 4pm on Sunday afternoon and she started to get stressed about it. So we diverted to my workplace and she was good as gold sitting at my desk with her assignments.

I just had this fanciful idea that we could be work buddies at home 😌

Like you, she mainly wants to be where other people are. It's not uncommon for us to suddenly be aware of her sitting on the carpet in our bedroom, which can be a trifle awkward at times! 😅

I need a proper desk and all my pens in the right place!