When is a teen too big for a bedtime?

but what if there rules are dumb and they have a stepparent and never had rules like they have now before? @TexChik

@matthewjames Toe the line and do as they ask, or find yourself somewhere else to live. It's that simple. When you find somewhere else to live, you will pay rent. That means you will be working one or two jobs just to survive because at your age you have no marketable cognitive skills and are just another strong back. If you are late to work or don't do a good job, you get fired. If you are out of work, you can't make rent or buy food or clothes and you end up on the street homeless and stupid.

I would suggest you put your big boy pants on, understand the situation, and pay the price of obedience to your step-parent who is providing you with free food, and a roof over your head. You could show your appreciation by doing things that need to be done around the house without being asked (ie taking responsibility). Cut the grass, rake the leaves, take out the trash, help with laundry or dishes, and become a productive and valued member of your family. You will find that your evil stepparent will soon respect you and form a bond with you. Your mom will be very appreciative because she is under a lot of stress defending you from her husband. She too will appreciate what you are doing and will absolutely love that you and your stepfather get along.

If you want to be treated like an adult and respected and trusted, you must earn it.
So earn it. Your life will change for the better in ways you have yet to fathom, just for doing more than expected of you. That will be true the rest of your life, but now, as a young teen, it is your golden opportunity to earn your self-respect and dignity.

@TexChik Very well said.

@Musicman I was adopted, my daughter is adopted, and I have 2 teens...They have heard this before and took it to heart. Its wonderful to see them flourish.

but I dont have a mom I just have a stepmom an she thinks she can tell me when to go bedtime an make my rules like no saying bad words or having soda she is so dumb@TexChik

@matthewjames That does not sound unreasonable. You do not sound very grown-up at all.