Did you get on with your parents ?

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I've spent a lot of time...(wasted time)...angry with my mother, and in the end, I must conclude that you can't choose your parents, and that you must NOT waste one minute in anger, blaming them for this, that, and the other thing.

revenant · F

@4meAndyou I chose to go no contact at an early age to just avoid that anger but now am back to square one and have to face it again..🤧

4meAndyou · F

@revenant The best thing I can share with you is that blaming someone else for one's OWN life choices, or one's OWN feelings is just a waste of our precious time. It's the sort of thing alcoholics do...(ie: it's always someone else's fault).

That doesn't mean you want to hang out with the toxic people in your life. Hopefully you know that only distance from them will bring you peace.

revenant · F

@4meAndyou she is the very clingy type. She needs someone to vent HER anger to..lol..I will have to go no contact again and again and again and again and again..😊

4meAndyou · F

@revenant I used to take ALL of my mother's calls. BIG mistake. Best day of my life was when I let them all go straight to the answering service, and hung up the moment I heard her voice. She would call me 20 times a day, sometimes.

revenant · F

@4meAndyou Do we share the same mother ? I have refused to speak to her for some time now. I am dreading the day when I physically will have to face her.

4meAndyou · F

@revenant Sounds like the same sort of manipulative narcissist. I used to see my mother out of pity, (and manipulation on her part), on Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. The rest of the time I sent her to the answering service.