Met this lady today

She was telling me she feels like a terrible mom because she works full time & when she gets home she just wants to rest & feels too tired for her kids 🥺

She's single so her mom keeps the kids while she's at work.
She said how the kids do all this fun stuff with their grandma & she's grateful for that but she just wishes she could do more with them too.

Even on her few days off, she accidentally rests too much or will feel lazy, so she worries she's not a good mom or that her kids would rather be with their grandma.

If you ask me, the way she felt about it & everything she said, told me she's a great mom 🖤
I've heard a lot of mom's put themselves down at times for not being enough & that ALWAYS makes me realize what a great mom they are.
If you weren't a great mom, you wouldn't worry about that stuff. The reason it hurts you so much is because you care so much. You want the best for them & you're working your ass off to do more than you're capable of.. & in the end you'll succeed. Because mom's like that always do when they want it that bad 🙏

Idk... I can't help but always think "damn I wish I had a mom like you". Mine walked away when I was too young to understand any of that. So I respect TF out of a trying mother ❤️ You can't give them the whole world, but [b]YOU'RE[/b] enough

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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

i went through the same thing. I wasn't a single mom but my husband worked 16 hour days so he was almost never home so I was always alone with my five kids. I took them to daycare and school each morning and picked them up from daycare or the after school program after I finished work at 5pm. Went home made dinner, homework, baths, bedtime. I have alot of guilt feeling that I never had enough quality time with them but I don't beat myself up over it anymore because looking back, I did my best and I did a good job because they all turned out okay and they always had everything they needed. I think moms will always have that guilty conscience that we never did enough but actually we do and we have to let that go

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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@ChiefWalksWith40oz I recently had this conversation with my 20 year old son and said I had alot of regrets and guilt about not being able to do more for them when they were younger and he said I was the best mom he could ever have asked for and that i gave him everything. it was the nicest thing he could have said

It definitely wasn't easy. in fact it was hard af. But they are my kids and I would never have left them or walked away from them for anything in the world. I have always put them first. My parents did the same for me.

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Jenny1234 what a wonderful son you raised. He's appreciative & he probably has every reason to be 😌 good on you for that 👌
I feel like when I have kids, I'd pretty much do anything for them. I'd give up anything in my life for them. I hope I live up to that

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@ChiefWalksWith40oz I believe you will!

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

Dude. Very insightful of you.
I been through that myself.
I was in bad shape and spent most of my time in bed.
I hardly ever left the room much less the house.
But the kids figured out how it worked all on their own against their mothers wishes even.

When they wanted dad time they came and spent time with me in the bed. Play video games, watch movies, play with toys all in the bed. They would just wake me up.
Also I was staying up late when I was awake.
They would wake up and come spend time sitting on my lap or just snuggling throughout the night.
Mom hated that they would wake me up.
She would come into the room and both, who weren't caged in the crib, would be using me as a seat while I slept and she would try to run them off. LOL
Any way. I felt guilty I wasn't doing the dad stuff I thought they needed.
I wasn't playing ball or going for walks.
Looking back and talking with them now they didn't care much.
Like I say .. when they needed dad time they just took it no matter if I was awake or not. LOL

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Dainbramadge damn man that's adorable. It sounds like you were depressed but I'm glad that your kids loved you through that anyway 🖤 even if there's things you wish you would've done, or stuff you wish was different, [i]you were there[/i]. That made the difference