Stoned Random Musings
Now that I'm an adult, I look back at my mother's parenting style and am more confused than ever. 😐
I don't even have kids, but I couldn't ever bring myself anywhere close to treating a kid the way my mom treated me. She was downright negligent.
There was physical abuse (which did dwindle off more as I grew older), constant verbal abuse that continues to this day, and a lot of neglect. She would leave for her work (long distance delivery driving) and would be gone for anywhere from 2 weeks to 4 months at a time. We never knew when to expect her home. I was 13 when this began, and my brother was 8. Once she started going away for those long periods, I became my brother's "mom". I cooked for us, cleaned the house, washed our laundry, signed report cards, helped with homework, and even made sure the household bills were always paid (I had stolen my mom's checkbook and would write and mail checks to the utility companies).
When I was 18, my mom conveniently decided to return home and quit the job that had kept her away all the time. Once she was back, she promptly kicked me out and signed my brother up for homeschool, as if she suddenly wanted to be an attentive mom. 🙄
What kind of mother can kick her own child out of the house when the kid hadn't done anything to provoke it?? I couldn't even kick my ADULT child out for no reason like that. Damn. My mom is cold af.
I don't even have kids, but I couldn't ever bring myself anywhere close to treating a kid the way my mom treated me. She was downright negligent.
There was physical abuse (which did dwindle off more as I grew older), constant verbal abuse that continues to this day, and a lot of neglect. She would leave for her work (long distance delivery driving) and would be gone for anywhere from 2 weeks to 4 months at a time. We never knew when to expect her home. I was 13 when this began, and my brother was 8. Once she started going away for those long periods, I became my brother's "mom". I cooked for us, cleaned the house, washed our laundry, signed report cards, helped with homework, and even made sure the household bills were always paid (I had stolen my mom's checkbook and would write and mail checks to the utility companies).
When I was 18, my mom conveniently decided to return home and quit the job that had kept her away all the time. Once she was back, she promptly kicked me out and signed my brother up for homeschool, as if she suddenly wanted to be an attentive mom. 🙄
What kind of mother can kick her own child out of the house when the kid hadn't done anything to provoke it?? I couldn't even kick my ADULT child out for no reason like that. Damn. My mom is cold af.
41-45, F
