Is there anybody who has chosen to havd one child only? Meaning..its your choice to have one...

tombailey · 51-55, M

What you want is your decision and nobody else's. It's not being selfish to decide you only want one child. As long as your child is loved and well cared for, that is all that matters!

MissMollyCharlotte0702

Why does it matter right now? Focus on the one you are carrying and worry about the rest later.
I have my son and I am grateful, but he’s lonely at times. I lost twins before he was born and we all wonder what life would be like with them. My 11 year old wishes for them. I wish for them....especially my daughter.

cloudi · 36-40, F

I have one now. Thought about having a second one but then it hit me I can’t have the second one with him. It will be too hard on my part. Do I feel wrong? Not really cause I think, if you feel you can’t do it, it doesn’t mean you’re the wrong one. We gotta use the logics and look at the facts here.

elVato · 46-50, M

Kids suck. Your life will now be on hold for at least 2 decades. I would say go for at least 2, fairly close together.
Sounds like double the work but it's not, you'll be glad they have each other to occupy their time for years to come.
Oh and don't helicopter parent; everybody's got kids and none are more special than any other.
- Parent w/2 kids.

Love4All · 56-60, F

I have 2, and yes very expensive and extremely high maintenance through no fault of their own. We survived and have struggled, but I honestly don't know where I would be without my second child, I feel she saved me.
For now, enjoy your first child, don't worry too much, bond with him, love him as much as you can and make things practical (not complicated). I wish I'd been able to do that with my first. ❤️

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

My child's father loved being an only child. She not so much. I probably hear her complain about it almost every day multiple times.

I chose not to have another child with her dad partially because of how her infancy and toddlerhood was for him and I.

I want another one but I would never do it with a partner that isn't fully on board. I'm getting too old now.