Is there anybody who has chosen to havd one child only?

Meaning..its your choice to have one child only.i am now almost 15 weeks pregnant...and i honestly doubt if i ever want a second child...one child seems so much easier..it might sound selfish to some people, but Im just thinking about all aspects...financially etc. I just dont want to be a family where we cant give our child(eren) the things they need...and also not being able to go to trips and do fun stuff...i dont want to struggle in making ends meet because we have to put TWO children in school ...and we cant afford family vacations...college. is that wrong? Growing up, we didnt do a lot of fun stuff.i also did not bond with my sisster because she was always bullying me...my husband grew up in a loving family and has a brother whom hes close to.....why does all of this always make me wrong?

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MethDozer · M

Who told you that you're wrong? You're just making sense. It would be wrong to have another child you cannot afford.

WildwoodFlower · 31-35, F

@MethDozer thank you!thats what im saying....so many people choose to have a second chil because their child will otherwise be 'lonely'. But they dont stop to think if they can actually afford another chil!i personally received 0 support from my parents....i paid everything on my own...my collega...my dribers license...my home
.everything! I wish i had grown up with more stability and security....i want to give my child (ren)....if that meanz that i can give my one child what it needs...and a 2nd one would complicate tninhs....why ot stop at 1? And besides that...i dont want to just be a mom...and a wife...no matter how selfish that might sound.i get overwhelmed easily and a work life balance is important to me

MethDozer · M

@WildwoodFlower I never understood that concept. Them getting lonely without q sibling. I think people forget childhood and fail to remember that most siblings Don't get along as children. They usually just fight and argue or they are too far in age to have anything in common. Hardly any siblings I knew got along all that well or played with each other by choice very often.
Making friends with other children solves lonely.

Love4All · 56-60, F

@WildwoodFlower You definitely have to think about yourself first and what you are capable of handling. Unlike you, I never reflected on myself, how I too get easily overwhelmed, have health issues and like to be alone a lot. I've had to work on being well myself first, in order to take care of my kids. It has been difficult (extremely, many times). And, yes financially it's been a struggle especially now that they're teenagers.

Thank you for posting this.

WildwoodFlower · 31-35, F

@MethDozer thank you! Some good points you got there

WildwoodFlower · 31-35, F

@Love4All thank you for sharing your story and youre welcome! Its just smnething thats been on my mind...i get overwhelmed easily and yes i too enjoy being alone...i just want to have a good balance and not put another child into this world i can not take care of the way i wish i could