If your spouse came home late because they got caught up at work would it bother you?

work is work, last thing they need is bickering or checking in to make things more stressful for him or her. Let the spouse unwind

no, it doesn't bother me...she's very self conscience, the thing that bothers me is that the staff knows how she is, and they sorta expect her to stick around and work for free to help clean up...none of them do that though....GRRRRRRR

It depends on the spouse. If it's not a trust issue, and you feel it's certainly work, leve the spouse alone. All they're doing is what they need to do, or think they need to do for the family. Don't bother them about it!

I think once per year would be more stressful than one per week

No I'm a big girl and realise people have responsibilities.

bbcjsv no it would not bother me I do not have trust issues unless I had grounds to doubt them

No. But I am lucky to have the kind of SO that is considerate enough to call.

Trust! work is what their attention is focused upon.

It sure would. I'm a widower.