How do you deal with estranged family connections who want to visit suddenly?

Some relatives who lived abroad and only just came for vacation want to see us before they go back home.

Thing is, they are my late dad's relatives.
We chose to part with the rest of them because most adults there are honestly just bullies, uncaring and had lost our respect by their choices and actions in our time of grief.

Years had passed since then. And it is still more peaceful to live disconnected from them.

But as for these visiting relatives, I am yet to know how they are. Because to be honest, I don't have any experience with them that I remember. So I am not particularly opposed to them visiting. I have no reason to accept, but also no reason to reject the offer. So I just allowed it.

But I do not know what to expect or how to treat them if they do visit.

Should they step even a toe out of line and try to hurt my family, they would see I am not my dad and I can devour and cut them in half.
But part of me...actually hopes they are different and sincere. That they actually care, even if it is unlikely.

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4meAndyou · F

As long as you are not part of their "free vacation". My parents home used to be the "free vacation" spot for many of our relatives, and even for friends of relatives who might want to tag along.

They were always welcomed royally, however, and my parents would give up their bedroom. My father would go all out and take them on tours of all the historical sites. We always took them out to eat at least once, and my mother actually [i]cooked[/i] for them and made desserts, (which never happened normally).

It was all good until after they left, and my mother had a "nervous breakdown" from exhaustion and from trying to make the relatives think she was great.

I applaud your decision to meet those relatives for the first time, but it should definitely be a casual meeting. (Cheap restaurant). 😁