Things people should never say to a parent with special needs children

My co worker this week have said these things to me

Your daughter is spoiled you should make her go
He's to old for a security blanket
He shouldn't still have accidents
He's to hyper you should put him on meds
He needs to grow up and stop clinging to you
He shouldn't suck his thumb
You should make her do more things she doesn't want it will be good for her
You need to make her eat what everyone is
You need to make him calm down when he talks
You baby him

but none of them know their story our even ask me.