SammyJo · 51-55, F
Tough going, Angela.
With my eldest, my ex husband had custody. It was tough. We didn't get along, he left me, and I had to jump through so many hoops to spend time with her.
For a time, he lived with his mum, relocating from where we lived, and she absolutely hated me. She always tainted his view of me to him.
But...we got there. Joint decisions were made, if he thought of them first, so it was a political game of planting seeds.
We're friendly these days. Been way longer apart than we were ever together. We've all matured - my daughter's in her 40's now - and that's good to see.
You'll get there too. Just time and consistency, but like @VeronicaJane said, not nice to deal with when you're under the weather.
Hugs, darlin'
SJD x
With my eldest, my ex husband had custody. It was tough. We didn't get along, he left me, and I had to jump through so many hoops to spend time with her.
For a time, he lived with his mum, relocating from where we lived, and she absolutely hated me. She always tainted his view of me to him.
But...we got there. Joint decisions were made, if he thought of them first, so it was a political game of planting seeds.
We're friendly these days. Been way longer apart than we were ever together. We've all matured - my daughter's in her 40's now - and that's good to see.
You'll get there too. Just time and consistency, but like @VeronicaJane said, not nice to deal with when you're under the weather.
Hugs, darlin'
SJD x
Excellent point Angela. You did tell him about and asked him to participate - which he declined. Your focus on the kids is spot on. You are right that his happiness is not any of your responsibility. Nicely done.
Sorry to hear sick, and hoping for a quick recovery. Lousy phone call when you are feeling under the weather.
Sorry to hear sick, and hoping for a quick recovery. Lousy phone call when you are feeling under the weather.
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ironborn · 51-55, M
So long as your kids are ok with the letters I think that is all that matters. As I said before I really liked what you did..it's a great way to open uncomfortable conversation. imo
MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M
That's very true your only concern here is your kids and what you think is best for them.
Sounds like he was embarrassed he didn’t participate, likely let down his kids and in general looked bad. A situation he created all on his own.
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Iwillwait · M
Did you overstep? Sounds like it.
AngelaR80 · 41-45, F
@Iwillwait No. You are reading it completely wrong.
The children currently live with him so he has the majority of the parenting time. He didn't agree with it is all. Actually what he can't deal with is losing control. Now I do things independently that's his problem, but it isn't mine.
The children currently live with him so he has the majority of the parenting time. He didn't agree with it is all. Actually what he can't deal with is losing control. Now I do things independently that's his problem, but it isn't mine.
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