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The inevitable phone call

I knew my ex would be unhappy about the letter folders I did for the kids.

Of course he waits until Monday morning when he thinks I'll be at work and unable to pick up. Leave a shouty voicemail then refuse to pickup to me later in the day. It's become a pattern since our divorce. Only today I'm off sick and picked up.

Deep breath while he rants. Then answer calmly which makes him rant more. I work really hard not to reply in an angry way but counter his arguments with "I told you I was doing it.". "I asked you to contribute you refused". "They are people I value and know the kids". "The kids really appreciated them". "It led to a worthwhile conversation".

Finally "I have scanned copies of everything I can reprint them any day".

He's off in a huff. And I have to remember his happiness is not any of my responsibility. Helping my kids is my priority.
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Iwillwait · M
Did you overstep? Sounds like it.
AngelaR80 · 41-45, F
@Iwillwait No.

I explained to him what I wanted to do invited him to be part of it. He declined and I said "I'm going to do it anyway". So I did. He never said don't do it.

That's not overstepping anything it's explaining what, why, when and how and going through with that.
Iwillwait · M
@AngelaR80 reading between the lines here it sounds as tough you knew all along his intent of wanting to do this during his Parenting Time, and you just did it anyways eliminating the Father's ability to contribute and be a part of your children's lives.
AngelaR80 · 41-45, F
@Iwillwait No. You are reading it completely wrong.

The children currently live with him so he has the majority of the parenting time. He didn't agree with it is all. Actually what he can't deal with is losing control. Now I do things independently that's his problem, but it isn't mine.
Iwillwait · M