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The inevitable phone call

I knew my ex would be unhappy about the letter folders I did for the kids.

Of course he waits until Monday morning when he thinks I'll be at work and unable to pick up. Leave a shouty voicemail then refuse to pickup to me later in the day. It's become a pattern since our divorce. Only today I'm off sick and picked up.

Deep breath while he rants. Then answer calmly which makes him rant more. I work really hard not to reply in an angry way but counter his arguments with "I told you I was doing it.". "I asked you to contribute you refused". "They are people I value and know the kids". "The kids really appreciated them". "It led to a worthwhile conversation".

Finally "I have scanned copies of everything I can reprint them any day".

He's off in a huff. And I have to remember his happiness is not any of my responsibility. Helping my kids is my priority.
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SammyJo · 51-55, F
Tough going, Angela.

With my eldest, my ex husband had custody. It was tough. We didn't get along, he left me, and I had to jump through so many hoops to spend time with her.

For a time, he lived with his mum, relocating from where we lived, and she absolutely hated me. She always tainted his view of me to him.

But...we got there. Joint decisions were made, if he thought of them first, so it was a political game of planting seeds.

We're friendly these days. Been way longer apart than we were ever together. We've all matured - my daughter's in her 40's now - and that's good to see.

You'll get there too. Just time and consistency, but like @VeronicaJane said, not nice to deal with when you're under the weather.

Hugs, darlin'

SJD x