I Have Issues With My Mother In Law

My MIL has no fucking idea what "live within your means" is. 🙄

She spends hundreds of dollars a month on absolutely unnecessary bullshit (cigarettes, lottery tickets, cluttery shit from secondhand stores, dining out every fucking day, etc.) all the while, allowing her actual basic expenses to go unpaid. Then in the middle of the month she comes to ME (jobless with barely any income) for money because she already burned through hers. 🤬🤬🤬🤬

I can't fucking stand this woman. I will throw a fucking party when we finally get far away from her. 🎉🎈🎶🎈🎶🎈🎉💃🏻🕺

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quitwhendone · M

I don't know why you even let her bother you. Just tell her you have NO money to loan/give her. End of problem.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone because she KNOWS we have money. We are saving all we can to help us get ourselves out of this house.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Tell her you can't loan her money because you are SAVING it for something IMPORTANT in your FUTURE! Tell her to get out of your ass. And tell your hubby that you are going to tell her where she can go so there are no surprises for him.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone she knows we're saving. She knows why. She doesn't care.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Well, it's none of my business but I think you ought to put your foot down. And you should ask hubby to have a sit down with his mom.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone we have tried. She just runs to her husband who defends her, then purposely makes us suffer for the next few weeks.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Well, you are in a pickle. Tell hubby to grow a pair. Tell him there shall only be ONE woman controlling him and that's YOU. Say, "Honey, it's Mama or Me. Decide."

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone we are both controlled by her. She controls everyone and every thing in this house. And sadly we are helpless because we can't leave just yet.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Oh, do you live in her house?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone yep. I've written lots of posts here about why and how that happened. Long story short: we had no choice and we are trying as hard as we can to leave.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Well, does she pay you back?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone nope

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 You're fucked. So sorry. Your best bet is to tell hubby to grow a pair and stop letting his mama control him. It doesn't bode well for your future together.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone I mean if we stood up to her the way we want to, there would be an altercation and the cops would get involved. So we try to keep our heads down and bear it until we can leave here.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Damn, she gets violent? Or really loud?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@quitwhendone oh yeah!! She is a spoiled brat and throws tantrums and threatens, etc. Her husband allows it. Idk if he's just whipped or if he actually likes her that way.

quitwhendone · M

@DearAmbellina2113 Well, I am so sorry. My mother is a crazy-ass bitch too so I know the feeling. Do you pay any rent? Cuz if you do, take the money out of the rent you give her. Otherwise, you can pretend like you got a demotion ant work and you aren't making as much as you used to and can't give her any money anymore. Or tell her you suddenly had a bug expense you have to pay off....dental work or something.