Every time I think I’m over the things my dad does to his own children or to women in general, I connect another dot and get mad all over again.

I keep getting told to stop holding grudges about you. But I think my growing hatred for you is what’s going to get me through my current stagnation.

My resentment towards this mf isn’t toxic, it’s fuel.

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Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

I would agree it is fuel, and eventually it will burn you up. To let go of the grudge means to forgive. Forgiveness doesn't benefit the person you forgive, it keeps them from living rent free in your head. Keeping a hatred alive will color your relationships, limit them, based on angers and resentments for another person. I am not saying to forgive and forget, I am saying forgive and move past the wrongdoings, and don't let that person back into your life to do it again.