just venting because i am so hurt

I am so tired but grateful.. i hope my heart will heal, when my sons dad left he told me i was making him a deadbeat , i reached out to him bc i needed help. Then he proceeds to say he would start all over bc if we arent in a relationship he doesnt need to be in our sons life. When he left he spoke so badly on my son and kept looking back at me saying horrible things that i couldnt hear but he muttered.. These words have burned in my mind bc i was in that moment first hand hearing what a deadbeat parent sounds like... and looks like. I knew he had issues butfor him to say that, it opened my eyes to evil pure evilness .. If i had chose to move him in i would subject myself to arguments everyday and beatings. so now i know its hoing to be a tough journey as a sole provider bc it has been... iv been keeping my head above water and to see no one on my side is gut wrenching... i cant trust anyone.. i know it time to change and i pray god will show me the blueprint bc i know things can get better .

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goodlil666 · 51-55, M Best Comment

I am sorry , but no matter the relationship between your ex and you. He is and always will be the childs father. His actions will affect your son's mental and emotional health and may create damage that may never heal.
Even if he is not there physically he is still bound by law to pay his share of financial responsibility until that child turns 18. He doesn't feel any moral obligation to his son to be a good dad,
and to be there for birthdays and holidays. Again I am sorry, but he must not be much of a man. Real men don't just abandon their children no matter what.

I wish you and your son the best in the new life you face. Don't doubt yourself or the choices you have made. Kids need to be raised in a loving , caring, home free of domestic violence and abuse. You are entitled to a home free of violence and abuse as well.

Some states will actually pursue known fathers on state charges of financial responsibility, if you haven't. He is making himself a DEAD BEAT DAD !
Keep your chin up, for there is no job more noble than that of raising kids in a loving, caring, respectful , environment where they learn the value and importance of trust, honesty, loyalty, acceptance, reliability, devotion, self worth, confidence and hard work.

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Pillowtalk714 · 31-35, F

@goodlil666 inreally appreciated this im just very hurt

goodlil666 · 51-55, M

@Pillowtalk714 That's perfectly understandable to have those feelings and be apprehensive about your and your son's future. Do not doubt yourself or your choices. You did what you know is right. Don't forget to pray for your ex that he will see the error in his ways and step up to the plate and become a real man and a real father.

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InHeaven · F

…thats why child support exists. Once he laid to make those kids he needs to support them. Apply for child support through court. He is playing you

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AngelUnforgiven · 46-50, F

He's a pos and just a sperm donor but you chose him! So now that you know what kind of person he is, file child support and move on. Your son deserves better. Dont ever look back, co-parent and let this be motivation. Be better than him, live better than him and leave him in your rear view mirror. I was married 22 years and i did it. They were 6 and 9 I remarried almost 13 years now and my husband is helping me put the kids through college. There is life after a deadbeat i promise you.

Pillowtalk714 · 31-35, F

@AngelUnforgiven this is hood for u i pray for that

JamesBugman · 56-60, T

Do you go to church? Maybe you can find a partner there to fill in the blanks. Best of luck.

Pillowtalk714 · 31-35, F

@JamesBugman thank you

Lilnonames · F

Take him to court

Lilnonames · F

@Lilnonames or if you file for assistance. They will take him to court to pay

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