Is it healthy to still love your ex?

You're not *in love* anymore but you know that deep down you love them, and it's mutual.

You wish them peace and you help them when they need it yet keep a safe distance.

Is indifference even a legit option?

Because it seems too ideal to be true.

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CookieCrumbs · F

I believe that you don’t really stop loving those you truly loved. I know this from personal experience. It may be different for others, though.

If it was not an abusive relationship, and maybe you separated due to irreconcilable differences, it is still possible to maintain the caring friendship.

SW-User

Exactly how I feel. You just reach a point where you can't stop caring @CookieCrumbs

NewMan2015 · 36-40, M

@CookieCrumbs Couldn’t say it better. I’m still friends with my last ex. The breakup sucked but not because of fighting or abuse. Unfortunately as great as we click in most regards, we’re too mentally broken and have kids with troublesome ex-spouses that affect what we can and can’t do. Still love her dearly as a friend, but I’m not in love with her anymore. She knows I’m here if she needs help. And I know she’s there when she can be.

CookieCrumbs · F

@SW-User
You can’t stop caring, but you’ve reached the point of acceptance that you can’t be together either. And know that it is better that way.

SW-User

Very true @CookieCrumbs