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There was this guy who's in his late 30's (he's 8-10 years older than me) that my father wanted me to date. That guy's fatheralso wanted me to date his son. The problem is we are both introvert and we almost never talk to each other. I'm kind bubbly even if I'm introvert and he's shy but very helpful person (like picks up trash, fix chairs, etc.).

He used say at least "hi" to me. But because he's really handsome, I tend to get shy as well. Now, I'm slowly having friends within my age bracket. And I've noticed he's trying to avoid me.

Earlier this morning, I'm trying to get a coffee for myself, he saw me and rushed to get out somewhere. It made me feel so bad. I don't have feelings for him, Im guessing. But, I feel like he's showing me he's not really into me. And I get a bit pressured because of our parents.
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FreddieUK · 70-79, M
Parents should take the advice I was given many years ago when trying to navigate other people's romances: 'Never get involved in affairs of the heart.'
@FreddieUK Sadly, that’s how it’s done in some cultures. My paternal grandparents’ marriage was arranged.
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@bijouxbroussard I'm sure there are other ways of looking at marriage, but I am a (grateful) product of the culture where we find our own partners.
@FreddieUK I agree, and some of those cultures have evolved, but the elders would point to the divorce rate in the Western world.
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@bijouxbroussard When the divorce rate is mentioned I find it a bit disingenuous as in those cultures divorce is almost impossible and always falls to the advantage of the man when it does. There is such social condemnation of divorce that a bad arranged marriage dooms two incompatible people to a life of misery.
@FreddieUK Yes, I’m aware (just for the record, I’m not pro-arranged marriages). Men (Western men, btw) have often bemoaned feminism as the culprit for the divorce rate because statistically women are more often the ones who leave. When they’ve said this to me I remind them that women leave when they’re unhappy, because now they can—happy women stay.
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
@bijouxbroussard I never for one moment doubted you were against arranged marriages: you're too wise for that. 🙂