You know what I think, but my heart goes out to you in this really difficult time. There is light, though.

How are things going? Is your house on the market? When I divorced my first wife, I bought her out by paying her
half the equity in the house. Of course it was a small house, and it was 1989, so very different money wise.

I should have deducted the taxes from the equity I paid her, but I didn't know. My future wife (married 30 years now)
told me that. I'm glad I married an accountant.

I went through something similar...but I sold my share of the house to the ex for "$1 and other valuable considerations". If I had waited for the house to sell, I would still be there...probably buried in the cement in the basement...🤣🤣🤣

I tried to file a few times over the years but dropped it.. is this something you both want or need or is there a conflict in this split? It seems a bit tinged with rage?

Keep biting your tongue - the hassle of fighting isn't worth it, and nothing said will matter at this point. Wishing you a decently peaceful next few days.