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Just a little venting, I’ll get through it just feeling overwhelmed going through a separation, having 3 kids and all of their activities, which was already hard enough to juggle while married along with my work schedule and things that I need to stay sane like exercise. It’s just a lot and I feel the pressure to be a great mom. Anyhow, if anyone has some genuine advice on how to manage I am all ears!!
Berti33 · 36-40, F
Being alone and taking care of the kids, is a terrible affair , I am knowing.
FLAme42 · 41-45, F
@Berti33 I’m sorry you’ve been through this too
Berti33 · 36-40, F
@FLAme42 I lost my hubby in an accident.. I had to pull on with my two kids. They were 5 yrs and 10 months
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
I am sorry to hear that !
You will get organized and that will help
How old are your children ?
FLAme42 · 41-45, F
@Strictmichael75 19, 16 and 14
Divorce is never easy. Sounds like you are doing great and just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Tiredish · F
Extremely strong woman. Now you just need a bit of time to yourself every day, like an hour or two of you time.
2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M
Tough on you and the kids sorry you are going through it
Convivial · 26-30, F
Hard one... Don't try to be everything for everyone.. You'll fail!

You only have do much to give... Be honest with the kids, they'll understand eventually...
FLAme42 · 41-45, F
@Convivial such an important reminder!! Thank you for that!
Convivial · 26-30, F
@FLAme42 just do your best without doing without your own needs
Tonydang · M
Honestly it will be tough to adjust at first but it might be mean me saying this but being alone for a while it will be the best thing for you after such a long relationship and I’m speaking from experience
You already are a great mom, let your kids take some of the load. If anything it teaches thrm lufe skills. Laundry, dishes, cleaning, dinners, etc....
Berti33 · 36-40, F
@TallMtnMedic Older boy, sure a helping hand all the time. Younger one too do with some help to me although a special child himself.
I'm just trying to get through a week of being a stay at home dad. Day 1 survived, brought them home and their mom put them to bed as I ran away for an hour or 2
Adogslife · 61-69, M
It’s actually really easy. When you’re young, your expectations are crazy. When you’re middle aged, you know what you want and there’s no reason not to be frank about it.

Dating apps can be tricky, but they do allow you to cull through a list of potential dates rather easily. Just jump in and have fun when you’re ready.

Don’t focus too much on the past. Just plan a great future without the mistakes of the past. Freedom is a wonderful thing while you’re seeking companionship!
Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M
Seems like you’re doing a great job 👏
Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M
@FLAme42 I know my separation was not a good one I lost everything but I am still here you come out the other side better
FLAme42 · 41-45, F
@Havesomefun2 aww I’m sorry it was a difficult one but glad you are better for it
Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M
@FLAme42 you will be aswell if I can you certainly will
Work out your marriage issues for your kids. Imagine the impact it would have on them.
There's no problem that can't be solved in a relationship if both agree to sit and talk.
@Berti33 you know, that's the biggest issue these days. People don't have patience.

I remember the quote from you...

"live the life with whatever you got and with a smile".
Berti33 · 36-40, F
@Royricky09... I didn't think Jim would marry me... nor I could accept him. He a big disciplinarian. We talked and talked almost everything.. He told me he is loving to help me for he knowing I got a heart to love him in spite of things I dislike in him.
@Berti33 there will always be things you like or dislike. But when you get married, that's takes the priority. You have to make it work.
From what I've seen watching other's and not going through it myself (yet) sometimes go be one of the kids if it's an open activity that includes exercise. Gives you something to bond with your kids over at the same time that might help them be your friends in the future.
Teslin · M
I seems daunting, but it will be fine and you will get through it. Juggling work, all your children's activities. All while trying to get to the gym, all works out. Hopefully your ex is involved and takes some of the children's responsibilities off your shoulders. I was lucky that way.
Sweetheavens · 46-50, M
This too will pass
Sequoia51 · 70-79, M
Shadyglow · F
I could not marry. Never had a nice career to "fall back" on when the inevitible failure came down


and still cant see straight for all the hard times nonetheless

so I feel for u
🍷🍷🍷 and more 🍷 😀
in10RjFox · M
I feel the pressure to be a great mom

This is where you need to work on. Don't try to be a great mom and try to manage things for your children. Be like an older sibling and friend to your children.
wintersecret · 41-45, M
Separation is never easy.

For a.working mom like u it will more tough initially but soon you will be rock it🫶
Huckleberry42 · 41-45, M
Divorced here. I get it.

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