I Am Getting a Divorce

My spouse and I are amicably parting. It's hard because neither of us expected us to get here. We make good friends, but we are not good marital partners. Someday, we hope we can be each other's "best person" at the other's wedding. We love each other deeply as friends. But, we cannot make it work anymore as husband and wife. No regrets though.

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PhoenixPhail · M

That's incredible, so different and so much more profitable than so many marital dissolvings. People hold onto anger and resentments when they make it personal, and won't let go.

Consciousness and mindfulness pay off. It's a breath of fresh air to me to see you practicing those. Congratulations to you both.
I think you'll remain great friends.

(The "leaders" of the world could learn a lot by using how you two are handling this, as a model for dealing with each other.)

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@PhoenixPhail Thank you! Glad this could be an encouragement.(We agree about the "leaders" as well.)

questionWeaver

Wish you the best ... remember ... you can not give 100% to your future ... until you give 0% to your past.

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

Wow, that sounds awfully...nice of both of you. How are you staying friends?

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@CoffeeFirst We are taking it slowly and figuring out what each other needs along the way. We are friends first. We are initially keeping family in the dark so as to keep drama, insanity, hard feelings and division out. I honestly told her I don't care what she wants that is mine. It's hard still, but we are trying to be sensitive to each other's feelings.

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

@NewMan2015 It sounds like it is hard for both of you but you are doing the best you can. Good job for being so sensitive. And I think it's a super idea to keep family in the dark for a while!!

hlpflwthat · M

Pretty calm and rational outlook. Best to both of you.

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@hlpflwthat Thank you. We realized we didn't want the hard split. We care about each other too much as friends.

Newstart77 · 46-50, F

Do you two have children?

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@Newstart77 Both fortunately (in this case) and unfortunately (we both wanted them), no, we don't.

Newstart77 · 46-50, F

Oh I am sorry to hear that. I am not going to spout b.s. about that being for the best. I hope you both find what you are looking for. Stay strong.

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@Newstart77 Thank you. And I appreciate the awareness!

SW-User

May you both find happiness. Sounds like a very healthy parting.

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@SW-User Thank You! We hope it will continue to be.

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