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rubyaruba · 18-21, F
depression stems from not wanting to give love, so maybe look within and see if there are any parts of you that require healing, any parts that reject giving love because you were hurt the last time you gave it. Sit with those emotions, feel them, forgive the people who hurt you, and forgive yourself, and once you have enough love in your heart again, you can give it to your baby <3 babies need love! But so do you, you were that baby once too <3
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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Notsimilarreally Maybe she didn't express it the way you are comfortable with but that doesn't mean she had bad intentions.
Choose your battles, you can't get upset at every minor inconvenience you need to save the energy for you and the baby.
Choose your battles, you can't get upset at every minor inconvenience you need to save the energy for you and the baby.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly I'm not even going to respond to the last part. She made a false statement. Nothing to do with comfort there. Pretty simple
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Queendragonfly I think it’s very odd that you’re stating depression would make a mother reject her baby or be jealous of others loving on her baby?
You don’t have a baby or kids,
do you?
Yes some people have those kind of issues that you mentioned… but I think that has to do with other issues within the person. I had depression to an extreme extent with my son when he was born. I had struggled with depression off and on way before I even had my first child (daughter), but this was different. He had health issues and I just fell apart all around. I felt very attached to him and my daughter, and I was scared, and I was feeling such a heavy weight of guilt all around, as if I was screwing all of it up. I couldn’t make anything right for either of them and I was more than sad…. The ache was awful. I couldn’t eat without gagging on food, and I couldn’t sleep even when he was sleeping
At no time did I feel detached from him or my daughter. And I definitely wasn’t jealous of love shown to them, I welcomed it, especially when I knew I could take a breather and get myself steady
You don’t have a baby or kids,
do you?
Yes some people have those kind of issues that you mentioned… but I think that has to do with other issues within the person. I had depression to an extreme extent with my son when he was born. I had struggled with depression off and on way before I even had my first child (daughter), but this was different. He had health issues and I just fell apart all around. I felt very attached to him and my daughter, and I was scared, and I was feeling such a heavy weight of guilt all around, as if I was screwing all of it up. I couldn’t make anything right for either of them and I was more than sad…. The ache was awful. I couldn’t eat without gagging on food, and I couldn’t sleep even when he was sleeping
At no time did I feel detached from him or my daughter. And I definitely wasn’t jealous of love shown to them, I welcomed it, especially when I knew I could take a breather and get myself steady
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
That happened to me with my son, but because he was quite ill with GERD and milk protein allergy. He would scream and cry all day.. then my daughter was struggling at first to adjust to no longer being the center of attention.
Felt everything was my fault and I started thinking I had done something to hurt my baby (until I got answers from his doctor)
I got help because I got quite low. If you are struggling do not hesitate to ask for help (whatever that looks like for you). I went back on a med and started slowly climbing up out of the hole, and it got easier as his health improved and everyone adjusted.
Are you having postpartum or is it a separate occurrence? Please take care, and you are not alone. People assume it “should” be all happiness and sunshine and rainbows when you have a baby… truth is it’s a big adjustment and hormones are all out of whack for a bit. Hang in there mama ❤️💪🏻 you’re doing great
Felt everything was my fault and I started thinking I had done something to hurt my baby (until I got answers from his doctor)
I got help because I got quite low. If you are struggling do not hesitate to ask for help (whatever that looks like for you). I went back on a med and started slowly climbing up out of the hole, and it got easier as his health improved and everyone adjusted.
Are you having postpartum or is it a separate occurrence? Please take care, and you are not alone. People assume it “should” be all happiness and sunshine and rainbows when you have a baby… truth is it’s a big adjustment and hormones are all out of whack for a bit. Hang in there mama ❤️💪🏻 you’re doing great
Viper · M
I think it's common though?
I wonder if lack of quality sleep has something to do with it? Or stress?
Sorry, I can't help more, I don't know enough about babies...
But with depression, the best thing they say for that is verbally talking... preferably to someone where you can see their body language and reactions.
But even if it's just to yourself or to a pet (which are great secret keepers) just verbally talk and get it out... as depression has risen with non-verbal technology, we need to be more verbal and get more exercise, both our bodies but also our sosical skills or methods
I wonder if lack of quality sleep has something to do with it? Or stress?
Sorry, I can't help more, I don't know enough about babies...
But with depression, the best thing they say for that is verbally talking... preferably to someone where you can see their body language and reactions.
But even if it's just to yourself or to a pet (which are great secret keepers) just verbally talk and get it out... as depression has risen with non-verbal technology, we need to be more verbal and get more exercise, both our bodies but also our sosical skills or methods
Nope. I had post partum depression, it lasted years. (I also had a sociopath of a husband so, that did not help me, but, I digress.)
Listen dear: If you are not okay please seek professional help. If you have the blues, or more, it's (probably) all HORMONAL but, you must seek help. It's just better for you and your baby or babies and family. You are only as able to care for them as your well being allows you to be.
[u]I don't know what I would have done had I not been in touch with a postpartum professional.[/u] I legitimately thought I was losing my mind bc I had thoughts of harming myself and my child. It was terrifying. And if I am being totally frank, I wanted to end myself because of those thoughts to hurt my child.
Take good care of you and your little love.
Hugs, L.
Listen dear: If you are not okay please seek professional help. If you have the blues, or more, it's (probably) all HORMONAL but, you must seek help. It's just better for you and your baby or babies and family. You are only as able to care for them as your well being allows you to be.
[u]I don't know what I would have done had I not been in touch with a postpartum professional.[/u] I legitimately thought I was losing my mind bc I had thoughts of harming myself and my child. It was terrifying. And if I am being totally frank, I wanted to end myself because of those thoughts to hurt my child.
Take good care of you and your little love.
Hugs, L.
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@BarbossasHusband ppd
NoGamesTolerated · F
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
It makes sense. If you're struggling mentally and get a baby you will suddenly have to take the baby before your own needs which can leave you feeling so unworthy and empty and the sleep deprivation and stress and BIG change and all new things to adapt to, it's making sense to become depressed.
HannahSky · F
@Notsimilarreally oh darn, I'm sorry
Sojournersoul · M
Most woman have ppd.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F