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rubyaruba · 18-21, F
depression stems from not wanting to give love, so maybe look within and see if there are any parts of you that require healing, any parts that reject giving love because you were hurt the last time you gave it. Sit with those emotions, feel them, forgive the people who hurt you, and forgive yourself, and once you have enough love in your heart again, you can give it to your baby <3 babies need love! But so do you, you were that baby once too <3
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
rubyaruba · 18-21, F
@WaryWitchWandering in my experience it did. I was depressed because I had no love to give. I guess not "wanting" is the wrong verbage but wanting to without being able to. And then anxiety started when I could give love again but I couldn't receive it. Everything in the world (especially mental health) stems from love or the absence of it.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@rubyaruba I have the similar experience. When people are truly depressed they become numb and shut people out. (with suicide thoughts too in many cases)
To have a new born while depressed oftentimes lead to rejecting the baby emotionally and or physically, and losing the secure attatchment that should develop.
It's not that uncommon to get jealous on the baby getting all the love and attention while the parent or parents feel neglected.
To have a new born while depressed oftentimes lead to rejecting the baby emotionally and or physically, and losing the secure attatchment that should develop.
It's not that uncommon to get jealous on the baby getting all the love and attention while the parent or parents feel neglected.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly "depression stems from not wanting to give love." she said. Please don't affirm someone who's blabbing false information on this post. That's really annoying and disrespectful especially after you definitely read my upset reply to her
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Notsimilarreally But it's you who interpreted her in a condescending way , why must I do the same if I'm coming from a calmer mental space?
Not happening.
You can't control others.
Not happening.
You can't control others.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly because her first reply was uneducated and ignorant. If that's her experience that's hers but it's not everyones which is what she said with the sentence I quoted in my previous reply to you. Controlling someone isn't my intent but calling people out for spreading false information yeah well that's what's happening here
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Notsimilarreally Maybe she didn't express it the way you are comfortable with but that doesn't mean she had bad intentions.
Choose your battles, you can't get upset at every minor inconvenience you need to save the energy for you and the baby.
Choose your battles, you can't get upset at every minor inconvenience you need to save the energy for you and the baby.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly I'm not even going to respond to the last part. She made a false statement. Nothing to do with comfort there. Pretty simple
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Queendragonfly I think it’s very odd that you’re stating depression would make a mother reject her baby or be jealous of others loving on her baby?
You don’t have a baby or kids,
do you?
Yes some people have those kind of issues that you mentioned… but I think that has to do with other issues within the person. I had depression to an extreme extent with my son when he was born. I had struggled with depression off and on way before I even had my first child (daughter), but this was different. He had health issues and I just fell apart all around. I felt very attached to him and my daughter, and I was scared, and I was feeling such a heavy weight of guilt all around, as if I was screwing all of it up. I couldn’t make anything right for either of them and I was more than sad…. The ache was awful. I couldn’t eat without gagging on food, and I couldn’t sleep even when he was sleeping
At no time did I feel detached from him or my daughter. And I definitely wasn’t jealous of love shown to them, I welcomed it, especially when I knew I could take a breather and get myself steady
You don’t have a baby or kids,
do you?
Yes some people have those kind of issues that you mentioned… but I think that has to do with other issues within the person. I had depression to an extreme extent with my son when he was born. I had struggled with depression off and on way before I even had my first child (daughter), but this was different. He had health issues and I just fell apart all around. I felt very attached to him and my daughter, and I was scared, and I was feeling such a heavy weight of guilt all around, as if I was screwing all of it up. I couldn’t make anything right for either of them and I was more than sad…. The ache was awful. I couldn’t eat without gagging on food, and I couldn’t sleep even when he was sleeping
At no time did I feel detached from him or my daughter. And I definitely wasn’t jealous of love shown to them, I welcomed it, especially when I knew I could take a breather and get myself steady