I Love My Children
My husband and I are already discussing with our boys if they want to go to college in a couple of years. Where did the days go? 😆
rckt148 · 61-69, M
I am trying to get 2 of my granddaughters back into college
One threw away a 6 yr full ride scholarship so her man could pursue his dream
Now he drives a beer truck for a local brewery
The other one ,her man won't work at all
He wants her to support him ,any work he does is his "Spending money "
and he is living off of my Granddaughter and his elderly Grandma
She is almost ready to come home
If I can get the rest of the family to stop downing him to her
The more bad things people say about him the more she protects him
My daughters should know ,,that is exactly what I went through with them
but they did finally go back to college
My youngest Daughter while she was pregnant
It made me mad my oldest granddaughter deprived someone else of that scholarship for her to throw it away ,
But she can still go back ,she has 2 yrs under her belt already she completed while she was still in high school ,
I never had the opportunity theses kids have had
I push educations ,
My girls are all doing well for themselves ,once they decided to listen
my Grand son is too ,,he has an awesome career now
but he also had a lot of breaks ,but he is a hard worker and because of it
people seen to it he was in the right places he needed to be .
One threw away a 6 yr full ride scholarship so her man could pursue his dream
Now he drives a beer truck for a local brewery
The other one ,her man won't work at all
He wants her to support him ,any work he does is his "Spending money "
and he is living off of my Granddaughter and his elderly Grandma
She is almost ready to come home
If I can get the rest of the family to stop downing him to her
The more bad things people say about him the more she protects him
My daughters should know ,,that is exactly what I went through with them
but they did finally go back to college
My youngest Daughter while she was pregnant
It made me mad my oldest granddaughter deprived someone else of that scholarship for her to throw it away ,
But she can still go back ,she has 2 yrs under her belt already she completed while she was still in high school ,
I never had the opportunity theses kids have had
I push educations ,
My girls are all doing well for themselves ,once they decided to listen
my Grand son is too ,,he has an awesome career now
but he also had a lot of breaks ,but he is a hard worker and because of it
people seen to it he was in the right places he needed to be .
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
@ClanNaFiacaillApWythe did you just insinuate I run my kids and grandkids lives ?
Did you miss they are allowed to make their own mistakes ,then when they ask for help they have it ,and then and only then do I help support them or anything else they need to succeed ,,and yea ,we are also middle class
You can say I surpassed that several times ,lost it all ,worked my way back and health took took it all again ,and a divorce took the rest ,,but I always bounce back
My kids took their ques from me because they asked ,,
Now all of them are doing very well for themselves
The grand kids will surpass us all ,2 of them are already middle class and they are only 23 and 19 and rising fast in their fields
The one that threw away her scholarships is doing fine without them
She manages a company ,buying her own home and her cars are paid for already
Like me ,they got an early jump .only they went to college while still in high school ,I am a drop out that had to work a lot harder to make mine
But considering I have a disease eating my spine ,and I had no one help me because until about 5 yrs ago no one believed me
Its really not easy rising in any field in pain ,,you could say I have mastered 3 and I have been very successful in all of them
SO that is why they ask advice from me ..In spite of all my set backs
I still set the right examples ,gave good advice
I hope the 2 that have dropped out of college return
But I am not trying to run their lives ,,I just give sound advice when its asked for ,,my kids and grandkids have always been allowed to live their own lives ,make their own mistakes
But we are an extremely close family ,some have said rare ,,to see 10 people so close and all on the same page
I help when asked ,I will support them if they are in school ,even give them cars ,but I don't run any of their lives
I teach them to be self reliant ,and let them run their own
They chose to include me in it and call me the head of our family
a position given to me out of respect ,not control
All but one of them is grown ,come December the youngest ,,except my son who is 11 will be 18
You can't control grown ups ,,they want to be around you and ask you're advice and opinions or they don't
I am just blessed ,,my family values mine
maybe because they can see ,noting keeps me down ,I always bounce back
Did you miss they are allowed to make their own mistakes ,then when they ask for help they have it ,and then and only then do I help support them or anything else they need to succeed ,,and yea ,we are also middle class
You can say I surpassed that several times ,lost it all ,worked my way back and health took took it all again ,and a divorce took the rest ,,but I always bounce back
My kids took their ques from me because they asked ,,
Now all of them are doing very well for themselves
The grand kids will surpass us all ,2 of them are already middle class and they are only 23 and 19 and rising fast in their fields
The one that threw away her scholarships is doing fine without them
She manages a company ,buying her own home and her cars are paid for already
Like me ,they got an early jump .only they went to college while still in high school ,I am a drop out that had to work a lot harder to make mine
But considering I have a disease eating my spine ,and I had no one help me because until about 5 yrs ago no one believed me
Its really not easy rising in any field in pain ,,you could say I have mastered 3 and I have been very successful in all of them
SO that is why they ask advice from me ..In spite of all my set backs
I still set the right examples ,gave good advice
I hope the 2 that have dropped out of college return
But I am not trying to run their lives ,,I just give sound advice when its asked for ,,my kids and grandkids have always been allowed to live their own lives ,make their own mistakes
But we are an extremely close family ,some have said rare ,,to see 10 people so close and all on the same page
I help when asked ,I will support them if they are in school ,even give them cars ,but I don't run any of their lives
I teach them to be self reliant ,and let them run their own
They chose to include me in it and call me the head of our family
a position given to me out of respect ,not control
All but one of them is grown ,come December the youngest ,,except my son who is 11 will be 18
You can't control grown ups ,,they want to be around you and ask you're advice and opinions or they don't
I am just blessed ,,my family values mine
maybe because they can see ,noting keeps me down ,I always bounce back
Yeah, it isn't right to try to live another person's life for them.
thats funny
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@ClanNaFiacaillApWythe Sorry if I misunderstood ,,I guide ,I teach ,I buy tool and pay for educations ,buy them cars so they can get to school and hold a job if they want ,,but I don't try to control any of them
I am the one that never says "I told you so " but I am the one that says
You know what the rules are here ,this is temporary ,welcome home
And I want them back in their own place as soon as possible
Or else I will get used to them being home ,and not want them to leave
Love must be tough ,and usually its the toughest on me
I love to see them happy and doing good on their own ,,but I hate to see them leave ,,but I made mine ,,when I am gone ,I want to know I did my best
they will be fine ..
everything I do for others ,I take from me
My spine is getting worse ,,soon I won't be able to do for myself
How much of a burden I am on them will determine if I stay in my new home
or let them have it and go to a VA facility ,and let them visit
I never want to control or be a burden ,,I am super man
I won't make them think any less of me ,,thanks for indulging me ,I know I can go on ,,and you're kindness
and yes ,I hate parents that won't let their kids grow up
thats whats wrong with out country ,,kids never grow up
Mine are leaders ,they are not in that number
I made sure they had the tools ,no one ever gave me
I was a star ,,God gave my talents to me ,my abilities to win were already in me
I am the one that never says "I told you so " but I am the one that says
You know what the rules are here ,this is temporary ,welcome home
And I want them back in their own place as soon as possible
Or else I will get used to them being home ,and not want them to leave
Love must be tough ,and usually its the toughest on me
I love to see them happy and doing good on their own ,,but I hate to see them leave ,,but I made mine ,,when I am gone ,I want to know I did my best
they will be fine ..
everything I do for others ,I take from me
My spine is getting worse ,,soon I won't be able to do for myself
How much of a burden I am on them will determine if I stay in my new home
or let them have it and go to a VA facility ,and let them visit
I never want to control or be a burden ,,I am super man
I won't make them think any less of me ,,thanks for indulging me ,I know I can go on ,,and you're kindness
and yes ,I hate parents that won't let their kids grow up
thats whats wrong with out country ,,kids never grow up
Mine are leaders ,they are not in that number
I made sure they had the tools ,no one ever gave me
I was a star ,,God gave my talents to me ,my abilities to win were already in me
ClanNaFiacaillApWythe · 51-55, M
latinbutterfly · F
@ClanNaFiacaillApWythe 15, they will be 16 in March.
ClanNaFiacaillApWythe · 51-55, M
@latinbutterfly We had the expectation that we were going to college early in grade school at about the age of 7-8.
latinbutterfly · F
@ClanNaFiacaillApWythe We don't want to push our boys too hard to go to college, but we do want them to decide by their senior year of high school so they can start applying if they so desire.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@Livingwell Both of my girls graduated a few years back.
latinbutterfly · F
latinbutterfly · F
@Allelse They do, besides the the typical sibling disagreements.