Is it fair to ask her

So Joel has his son every other week and every weekend.

The weeks he has him he spends most evenings with us but goes home for the night. He's a butcher and goes to work at 4:30 am. So if he stayed the night here during the week it would mean Star would have to get his boy up and ready for school. He goes to the same school as my son. But would it be fair to even ask her to do this. His son is 9 but is special needs. He needs a bit more help getting ready then my son does. I just don't know if I should even ask her.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

With stuff like this, you can ask, and she might say yes, but at the same time, I would be asking yourself what you can do in other ways to alleviate stress off of her? What can you help with the night before to make the morning go smoother? What can you do when you get home to make the rest of her day less depleting?

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@WhateverWorks I always try to make it as easy for her as possible. My daughter rarely needs any help in the morning.

I have two sets of clothes laid out for me boy. He spills at breakfast a lot lol
I have their breakfast prepped the night before.
I have their lunches ready and packed.
I have their backpack ready and by the door.
I have their coats and shoes ready by the door
I have my daughter sensory bag ready by the door.

She only does mornings.

I pick the kids up after school. I get off at 230. She is usually at school herself or out with friends in the evening.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

@Cigarguy101 hello sounds like you’re doing a pretty good job trying to be helpful. The only thing I can think of is asking her if there’s anything else she needs help with that would make taking on the extra responsibility. Less stressful.