I don’t know what to do with her
Mum is super transphobic as it turns out. Which is rich because she is in a relationship with another woman.
She’s only insisting “we don’t fall out” because she cannot bare the thought of not seeing my son. She comes to visit and we take my son out and she spends the day using my old name and pronouns and pretending like I never came out.
She said she was going to read up on being transgender etc…and inform herself and so on but she has not done that. She’s made no effort so far and it’s been a good few weeks.
Oh and I also did tell her I was trans ten years ago and she got panicky and asked a load of questions designed to make me panic and freak out, and so naturally I retreated in to myself for another ten years…and she never checked in on me once over the subject.
Now she’s acting like it’s a huge shock?! Ffs 🤦
She’s passive aggressive and rude and selfishly making it about her. She actually responded to me coming out by saying “it’s not all about you you know??! You do know that right??”
Next level narcissistic.
I want to shut her out, but I’m not sure that is fair on my five year old who loves her. I do don’t know what to do.
Edit: I don’t want to jump the gun here but she said something really supportive today so I’m thinking maybe I was wrong about her after all. She said something truly hurtful things when I told her but maybe it really was just shock speaking.
She’s only insisting “we don’t fall out” because she cannot bare the thought of not seeing my son. She comes to visit and we take my son out and she spends the day using my old name and pronouns and pretending like I never came out.
She said she was going to read up on being transgender etc…and inform herself and so on but she has not done that. She’s made no effort so far and it’s been a good few weeks.
Oh and I also did tell her I was trans ten years ago and she got panicky and asked a load of questions designed to make me panic and freak out, and so naturally I retreated in to myself for another ten years…and she never checked in on me once over the subject.
Now she’s acting like it’s a huge shock?! Ffs 🤦
She’s passive aggressive and rude and selfishly making it about her. She actually responded to me coming out by saying “it’s not all about you you know??! You do know that right??”
Next level narcissistic.
I want to shut her out, but I’m not sure that is fair on my five year old who loves her. I do don’t know what to do.
Edit: I don’t want to jump the gun here but she said something really supportive today so I’m thinking maybe I was wrong about her after all. She said something truly hurtful things when I told her but maybe it really was just shock speaking.
