I have noticed a trend

When people are asked what would they say to a loved one who has passed, they almost always say they would tell them about their life, what they have done and that they think their loved one would be proud of them.

No one ever says they would ask them about their life, what was their favorite parts, their loves, their passions. Like ever.

If I had the chance to have my grandmother back, i would want to hear her life stories all over again so I can appreciate her as who she was and how she lived. To me, that would be the best thing in the world.

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bijouxbroussard · F

If I could speak to my mother, I’d ask if the next life is what she’d expected. She’s told me about her past, and I was with her up to the end. If she’s been watching over me she knows what else happened to me.

Blondily · F

Id ask my parents about the afterlife, if they are happy if they know what Ive been doing, are they around other deceased relatives, etc.
Id want to say how much I love and miss them and ask more about our ancestors, etc. Get the name of my paternal great great grandmother and before her to add to my ancestral tree. Stuff like that.

peterlee · M

My mother died young. Always visiting people with homemade fruit cakes, having a chat with the lonely. Two weeks before she was taken into hospital she was cleaning for her sister, ten years older than her. She was the school cook at a Primary school, loved children. When my cousin came out of prison, for the crime of having a seventeen year old gay lover, she took him under her wing, though he was ignored by most the family. Too busy to tell stories of the past.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@peterlee She sounds wonderful and obviously enjoyed living for the present making other people's lives better.

exexec · 70-79, C

Since I am the family historian, I would love to ask my ancestors a lot of questions about their lives. Fortunately, I got my parents' life stories in print before they died.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Such a vast loss of wisdom when we let our elders pass without learning their stories. Heartbreaking really. 💔

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@OlderSometimesWiser I loved listening to my grandparents and parents talk about their pasts. I could never get tired of hearing them. It isn't so much wisdom as it is just appreciating them for who they were.

bijouxbroussard · F

@OlderSometimesWiser My father still tells me stories from the past, and I’m writing them down. What’s funny to me is now being one of the elders with stories…

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@bijouxbroussard It’s great you’re doing that. 🙂

Sometimes I wish I’d made recordings of my mom and grandmother’s stories. Guess at the time I just never wanted to look at the reality that someday they’d be gone and I’d long to hear from them again.

NerdyPotato ·

I haven't seen this trend, but that's pretty self centered. Is this how far society has come?

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@NerdyPotato I see it in every true crime show when they interview the family. Doesn't matter which one; 20/20, Cold Case Files, Forensic Files, it is always the same things said. Maybe they edit out the actual answer that includes this sentiment, but if so, that's pretty sad.

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