DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Only you know her best. You raised her for at least 13 years.
I'll stand firm that no two people are alike. Regardless of age. Therefore there's no particular one way to handle anything but by experience.
Ask yourself, what could lead up to this in her behavior, is the best that I can give. The answer is likely there already.
I'll stand firm that no two people are alike. Regardless of age. Therefore there's no particular one way to handle anything but by experience.
Ask yourself, what could lead up to this in her behavior, is the best that I can give. The answer is likely there already.
Mamapolo2016 · F
I do understand your heartache. I want to tell you, this sort of behavior is quite common in teenagers. And may even be necessary to a point.
Unless there was some major upset in your relationship, don’t regard this as permanent.
They say two-year-olds’ behavior is due to them realizing that they are a person beyond their parents, trying to establish their identity. Trying to separate from “the egg.”
Then, in their teens, it often happens again. They become intensely private and they don’t want to share themselves with their parents. Some just disappear into their rooms, and some show more obvious rebellion. It can mean more upsetting things but not always.
It can be hard to recall, but the emotions of teens are like a tsunami. Things they won’t remember in six months seem world-shattering. They feel like parents are always interrogating them, judging them.
It’s a tough row to hoe for the parents, but the teens are wondering about what will be required of them in the future, what will their world be like and how they’ll fit in.
Try not to despair.
Unless there was some major upset in your relationship, don’t regard this as permanent.
They say two-year-olds’ behavior is due to them realizing that they are a person beyond their parents, trying to establish their identity. Trying to separate from “the egg.”
Then, in their teens, it often happens again. They become intensely private and they don’t want to share themselves with their parents. Some just disappear into their rooms, and some show more obvious rebellion. It can mean more upsetting things but not always.
It can be hard to recall, but the emotions of teens are like a tsunami. Things they won’t remember in six months seem world-shattering. They feel like parents are always interrogating them, judging them.
It’s a tough row to hoe for the parents, but the teens are wondering about what will be required of them in the future, what will their world be like and how they’ll fit in.
Try not to despair.
Longpatrol · 31-35, M
I think you need to sit her down and have a good talk with her. You need to let her know you're being hurt. I'm sure she still loves you but as a former teenager, I can tell you how ignorant as to how my actions affected my dad(who is a single father)
Teens are self absorbed at that age, not a diss, but a general trait.
Raise it with her, carve out some time with her, set an appointment with her. Let her know on date 02/XX/2026 is mother daughter time. You are her first friend, she'll remember it soon enough.
Teens are self absorbed at that age, not a diss, but a general trait.
Raise it with her, carve out some time with her, set an appointment with her. Let her know on date 02/XX/2026 is mother daughter time. You are her first friend, she'll remember it soon enough.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
@Longpatrol I wish that I could frame this comment I love it so much. You hit the nail on the head with this one. I agree with you 💯%
bowman81 · M
When my daughter was about 15 she went through a stage where I doubted that either of us would survive to see her raised. One of us wasn't going to make it. I would go home for dinner (working afternoon shift) and just be white knuckled upset. She knew my buttons and took great delight in stomping on every single one of them.
My partner at the time asked me what was wrong, so I explained the situation. He laughed and told me to try to roll with the punches, that his daughter did the same thing...was just unbearable until her late teens. It was like a switch was thrown. He was right. Hang in there, stand your ground, but be prepared until she grows out of it.
My daughter is a loving, sweet, intelligent, woman now, trying to cope with two daughters of her own. Karma. 😏 It is all part of being a parent. I wish you the best.
My partner at the time asked me what was wrong, so I explained the situation. He laughed and told me to try to roll with the punches, that his daughter did the same thing...was just unbearable until her late teens. It was like a switch was thrown. He was right. Hang in there, stand your ground, but be prepared until she grows out of it.
My daughter is a loving, sweet, intelligent, woman now, trying to cope with two daughters of her own. Karma. 😏 It is all part of being a parent. I wish you the best.
Nunki · 31-35, F
I believe the situation is complicated, but please don’t lose hope. Don’t give up on her. Someday she will understand your true love because actions speak louder. Your consistency now is a bridge for the future. When one day she looks back and realizes ‘Mom was always trying, however she could. She never gave up on me, even if I wasn’t perfect[/i]’. Hugs
DDaverde · 61-69, M
I’m very sorry
To hear this it’s unfortunate but the divorced mothers turn the children against the Fathers all the time.
In a divorce it’s uncommon when they do not
God bless and be strong dot give up..send txts and if you have her address send her a card and a note ..
To hear this it’s unfortunate but the divorced mothers turn the children against the Fathers all the time.
In a divorce it’s uncommon when they do not
God bless and be strong dot give up..send txts and if you have her address send her a card and a note ..
Facebook does have a support group for parents 50+ of toxic children.
I do not know your situation; this may not be the support group for your family.
Also, your community may offer a support group IRL or virtually.
Best wishes.🌞💖
I do not know your situation; this may not be the support group for your family.
Also, your community may offer a support group IRL or virtually.
Best wishes.🌞💖
masterofyou · M
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
That really sucks, is there something she feels she can't talk about? I'd maybe just tell her that she can talk whenever she feels like it but leave it open after that. It hurts but sometimes all you can do is just do you.
Also I think it could be normal for teens to I don't know
Also I think it could be normal for teens to I don't know
They go through phases. When they turn into teens they lie and hate and do drugs and fall apart, and then as they age they get things sorted and it starts to come back together. She will come back one day. Hopefully not asking for money.
@MisterBander Hopefully she will come back one day.
tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
becca00f · 22-25, F
has she changed in any other ways, maybe not something else started it and she just cant find a way to talk to you about it