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How do you stop feeling guilt?

When my dad was in a nursing home the past two years, I started visiting twice a week, but went down to once a week. He was often irate and it was difficult..but mostly our visits were good. My sister said she'd only do once a week because of how he treated us in our life, mainly backing up my mom's horrible severe abuse. So I went once a week.

He was recently diagnosed with aggressive cancer, untreatabl, in January . It was heartbreaking. He's been in hospice a week now and each day he can talk less🥺 He was the only parent I could sometimes ask minor advice. And even though I've been by his side each day, telling him I love him, I get guilt still that I didn't go as often last year as I could have. 🙁 I think it's going to make me anxious after he passes. How to alleviate any of it?
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Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
Hopefully you are able to realize that you have nothing to feel guilty over. If your mother was as abusive as she sounds, and he did nothing, I'm sorry but he is just as bad as her. He is lucky you visited him at all.

All of that aside, when people we love go, we can only be there so much and do so much to help comfort them. You aren't a superhero and you can't stop the natural way of things. We all face death at some point, and it does suck and seem unfair, maybe after we are gone we will know why. Maybe not. However....you have nothing to feel guilty over. You are doing a lot by visiting him and spending time. He knows you love him, and he is facing now what we will all face eventually. Maybe not cancer for everyone, but many of us.
HelloItsMeAgain · 26-30, FNew
@Notsimilarreally Beautifully said.💙
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
@Notsimilarreally Thank you, I truly appreciate that♥