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Guilt as my dad is deathly ill

I've visited my dad once a week for the last year in his. Nursing home. The year prior to it I visited twice a week. Sometimes he'd act irate and rude over little things but mostly it was a good visit. My sister said why not go once a week after he acted like that, especially since he turned a cheek our whole life when we were severely abused by our mother. So I said, yes I'll do once a week.

But now that he has aggressive cancer and could pass any day, I'm feeling a bit of guilt. Every visit, and now too, I do provide him kindness and snacks, getting what he needs etc. , music ...but of course there were extra days last year I could have gone as well. 🙁
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PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
We as a family started off seeing my dad in a nursing home everyday the first year. By year 4 it was down to 1...maybe 2 days a week. We also as a family took turns so somebody saw him everyday. In August 2020 he passed overnight and no one was there. We found that all of us do not feel guilty because we did our best...for him and ourselves.