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Guilt as my dad is deathly ill

I've visited my dad once a week for the last year in his. Nursing home. The year prior to it I visited twice a week. Sometimes he'd act irate and rude over little things but mostly it was a good visit. My sister said why not go once a week after he acted like that, especially since he turned a cheek our whole life when we were severely abused by our mother. So I said, yes I'll do once a week.

But now that he has aggressive cancer and could pass any day, I'm feeling a bit of guilt. Every visit, and now too, I do provide him kindness and snacks, getting what he needs etc. , music ...but of course there were extra days last year I could have gone as well. 🙁
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FrugalNoodle · 46-50, M
Don't feel guilty over that, you didn't know then what you do now. You are a better daughter than it seems he deserved due to the past neglect. You've nothing to feel guilty over.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@FrugalNoodle Thank you. I try to remember that but I still feel these little pangs of guilt. However, I always made sure he had what he needed when I did go, and was positive. Thank you 🌼
FrugalNoodle · 46-50, M
@Coralmist You'll be feeling strongly things for a bit, keep remembering factual things to keep on solid ground 🤍
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@FrugalNoodle Thanks again Frugal