Hope dad doesn't pass yet

I wanted to say, even though I'm not religious, "don't be frightened" to him today, but never got the chance. We talked of a few other light things, but he could only stay awake a couple minutes out of a five hour period. (Aggressive cancer) I don't want to say goodbye today. He's in hospice and I hope he makes it even a few more days.

This is truly painstaking. But I really hope he can make it a few more days. His wheezing (pneumonia) was elevated tonight and no one came in to give more meds for it. They said they would in the morning when I asked a nursing home nurse. But what good is that overnight??

I want /hope to tell him one more time he'll always still be here, that he's not truly leaving 😢

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RodneyTrotter1 · 100+, M

Big hug for you 🤗

My dad passed in a care home, a few weeks before his 90th birthday and he was just a statistic, a patient number on their computer records, no sentiment whatsoever when I called to ask how he was doing.

I hope your dad makes it through the night and many more.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@RodneyTrotter1 I'm sorry about your dad🙁 Yes it seems they are just a thing to these places. Hospice has been good but they don't return to his room after noon time. I'm glad I was there Bec he has not eaten in days, and did accept the Jello i offered. No one should endure the MEAN bulky of cancer. Why have we not been able to eradicate it???? His body is so weak, fluid filled feet, bruising now all over, and pain all over. I don't understand it.. ty for your words. 🌸

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@RodneyTrotter1 *Bully not bulky sorry

RodneyTrotter1 · 100+, M

@Coralmist I wish I had the words to make you feel better about things 😥
Cancer is a cruel bastard of a disease, pardon my language and it's heartbreaking to see them deteriorating.
The staff in these places are heartless, the used to put my dad's meals almost out of reach of him and we had to feed him ourselves, I dread to think of what happened when we weren't there (we live 140 miles away)
Sending you my best wishes, I feel your pain 🤗