If someone's own family has issues with and turned away from someone, would that be a big red...

Looneybeans · 26-30, M

Cause of concern? Yes. But Big red flag? No.

Like @OriginalNedKelly says, it's vague and lacks information because nothing in the question explains why.

Some families are dysfunctional and there may be that one member of the family who says ''Enough'' and goes against that family's dynamic. That can be considered an issue by the family, which makes them turn away. The red flag, thus, is the dysfunctionality of the family and not of that one member.

Ultimately, what makes us decide a person's integrity and decency is not based on how their family treats them, but how the person behaves in society.

Magenta · F

I would say so most likely. Your family is your first support and who typically love and accept you over all others. If they have those type of issues with you, it can point towards you being mostly the problem. They wouldn't do it for NO reason. Some people are good at playing the victim.

BrandNewMan · M

It would certainly give me some cause for concern. That said, I know a couple people who basically cut off family where the family was the problem (drugs/alcohol, illegal activity, domestic violence, etc).

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

Absolutely. For instance, I recently learned that Cathy, our lovely problem tenant, who likes to trash talk everybody she knows, does not get along with her own daughter, and lied to me about her daughter having her own phone number and email address in order to limit my communications with her. In return, her daughter had a few very choice words for her.

itsnotimportant · 46-50, F

Without more details, it isn't a definite yes or no. Sometimes families are the red flags and someone might be deviating from the family pattern.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

I would definitely consider it. There may be occasions where someone has been made the black sheep of the family, because the family is full of narcissists.
However, there are some self-proclaiming "black sheep" that cause a lot of drama behind the scenes and then declare themselves as misunderstood.
If almost everyone ,in their circle, even people outside their family ,eventually, don't want anything to do with them that is a gigantic red flag that shouldn't be ignored.