Livingwell · 61-69, M
My mom was amazing. She was always there for me. Even as an adult. She was funny, smart, patient, and had a temper when pushed too far. We are much alike. She was compassionate and giving. She gave her life to taking care of old people. She had one demon but it didn't define who she was or her ability to be a mom. She taught me those things by example, some discipline, and lots of love. I miss her.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Livingwell That's really awesome...ty for sharing. My mom was a volatile sociopath who would bully me and taunt me and threaten me. And blame me that I was an awful child. It ripped my whole self out over time, and I developed PTSD as an adult. Just reading about how some moms really WERE kind, loving or supportive gives me a sense of how to reparent myself. Thanks 🌹
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@Coralmist I have an understanding of your situation. My father was an angry man. I knew the belt and the hard walls well. I made a decision to let it go and never do that to my children. I kept my promise. My daughters are my best friends and we are very close.
TheYawnArchive · 46-50, M
She really loved her kids me being one of them, a piano teacher also who formed deep friendships with whole families, she was always more than what she was doing on the surface, being wholly there. She also battled depression, not feeling worthy of things, and also feeling like she was going crazy with me and dad being ourselves. We both felt same things in regard to dad, and we'd often share about that, mom was deeply down in the dumps for how messy we were, she would have liked a tidy place, if we would have had that, she would've had a lot less sadness i am sure.
i've been shaped by her in how i open the windows to get an airflow going in hot summer months, we never had AC, and general sense of decency in the areas not covered by dad.
i've been shaped by her in how i open the windows to get an airflow going in hot summer months, we never had AC, and general sense of decency in the areas not covered by dad.
ABCDEF7 · M
She helped me understand what may feel you good, may actually not be the right way to go. Work hard and have confidence in yourself, you can achieve anything. Be helpful to others, give importance to helping others in pain, than your pleasure. Sharing others' sorrow is equally important as you should share your happiness with others.
RhyleighTown · 18-21, FNew
My mom is amazing. She has always been my biggest supporter and has done her best to help me to believe in myself. I was not always an easy child. I'm still not. Not really. My mom has had to deal with a lot from me, but she loves me unconditionally. How do her traits help me shape who I am? I'm still figuring that out.
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
She was a stay at home mom. She got me off to school every morning, made all our meals, made sure I got to all of my dance, music lessons and sports throughout the years. She was so kind and loving. She was a lot of fun to be around. She took us everywhere we wanted to go. She gave us unconditional love every day
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 Thanks for sharing Jenny. It's refreshing to know that being treated with respect and love is not some fantasy but a REAL practice by many parents. I'm trying to reparent myself and if I give myself an ounce extra compassion, my mind will think I'm being selfish. But that is my mom's voice. Giving myself compassion would be a real occurrence with a kind mom. And it would yield positive feeling in myself and esteem. Ty again 💓
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I grew up in a tumultuous home. My mother helped me learn ways to calm myself and make myself comfortable when surrounded by stresses. She was a kind dear person. I miss her very much.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
my mom died when i was 11, so there isn't a lot i remember. There were two traits that she had that drove me bonkers, but set me up for my career in science. One was not necessarily answering questions, but helping me find the answers, the other was her telling me to make my own decisions.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@samueltyler2 I'm sorry to hear, 💐 But that's such a wonderful thing to teach you, to make your own decisions. 🌸 My mom would berate every decision I made, I began to get severe anxiety in my early 20's after decades of daily mocking or excessive criticism. It's so hard trying to find confidence now..
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Both my Mom and Dad -- and my Mom's father who lived with us -- were always supportive and loving.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@ChipmunkErnieThat's really nice, wow...Did that help you feel positive about yourself, your life, etc?
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
@Coralmist Pretty much, yes.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
My mother was off and on so it was sometimes confusing, but she loved me, and I loved her
Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M
It was pretty amazing. Made me more empathetic
Lilymoon · F
I didn't have that luxury unfortunately
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Sadly, none was more interested in my older sister
Musicman · 61-69, M
I actually did. My mom was the best. She was supportive and loving. I cried when she passed away. She made me who I am today.