My Mother didn't show me Love

When I needed my mother, she wasn't there emotionally in my teen years. I had to fend for myself, leave home and learn how to navagate the streets engaging myself with dangerous people. I'm tired of the excuse of "Oh her parents weren't affectionate to her" There is a such thing as therapy so you won't spread the generational curse. I envy woman who have close relationships with their mom. She was so mean to me, criticized my clothing as a adult with my son present, & when my old apt was damaged due to a fire which wasn't my fault, she stood there with a smirk on her face. She abused my brother and as a social worker and got away with it when I was younger.

RedBaron · M

Seems like you need to talk through all your justified anger and pain with a therapist and find a way to forgive her after you do that.

It won’t be easy, but it’s necessary for you to eventually move on.

RedBaron · M

@BeautifulLibra Excellent. Hopefully that works for you.

I had similar issues with my father, and it took me until my 50s before I was able to forgive him and make him smaller in my mind, and forgive myself for all my anger and hostility.

BeautifulLibra · 46-50, F

@RedBaron Thanks for understanding, the idea of making her smaller in my mind sounds like a good idea.