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Not all mothers are moms

With Mother's Day approaching I am reminded what a difficult holiday this has always been for me. Not for the reasons you may think. Not because I lost my mom. Nope, she is still very much alive. But because of the strained relationship we have had most all my life.
It's so incredibly hard, and weird, to stand in the card section and try to pick out a card for someone who doesn’t fit into any of the descriptions that are written about in those cards.
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Willow2025 · F
Be lucky you have a mother. I don't she killed herself when I was 12. you should just fix what ever issues you have with her and stop crying on her about how bad it is.
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@Willow2025 Crying?? While I am sorry to hear of the tragedy you experienced, who are you to judge me and my experiences, which btw you have no knowledge of.
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skmokisses · 46-50, F
@Willow2025 Again, I reiterate, you know nothing about ME or what my mother put me through. Whether or not I love her is my choice......to which I never indicated that I didn't love her. READ all the way through before passing judgement.
Willow2025 · F
@skmokisses you are a selfish person for treating your mother this way. you should love her no matter what and stop trying to get people to make you feel better on here with you boo who post
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Miram · 31-35, F
@Willow2025

Most of your comments I have read so far are egocentric, incredibly detached from reality, and obviously lack any ability to process and understand boundaries, irrespective of what you went through.

Your traumas don't have to be someone else's burdens, if that's why you behave in such manner. Sort it out.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Willow2025 Unfortunately we do not need to love our mom no "matter what". My mom has bullied me, threatened me, mocked me and threatened to kill me. I am actually working at going full no contact with her. I'm truly sorry about your mom that is so difficult for a young person growing up😟 to experience that. But some moms are near Evil. And want suffering for their kid, my mom even said so. So unfortunately it's not always a rule of loving a parent who is or can be despicable
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@skmokisses she seems to be triggered by post about family. She's been trolling me for a few days now, saying I'm a horrible father, I'm a drunk and I need to get my kids back to their mother. I can see she's had a bad go of it and I feel bad for her. But she just keeps going
@Willow2025 I'm so very sorry for your loss :(
@Willow2025 You cannot love someone that is incapable of loving their own children, most of them are also abusive and very narcissistic as well...
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@Cigarguy101 That is terrible!! I understand having a bad go at it. But to be so aggressively rude and distasteful to others is just disrespectful in my opinion. And I have no time or tolerance for it. I am not a mean or rude person, I am sure many could vouch for that here. But I also won't put up with that kind of blatant disregard and disrespect.
@Cigarguy101 That's when it's time to block, I am so very sorry she's doing that to You :(
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@NativePortlander1970 I did block her but I was told she was making lots of post about me and my kids. I'm a big guy I can take it, hell some might be true but when she was posting stuff and my kids it upset me. So I unblocked her to try and keep it under control. I can always delete her comment if she posts on my page.
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@Cigarguy101 I am not trying to put my nose where it doesn't belong but if this woman is posting about you and your family in a negative way I would report her. No need to try to keep the peace with someone of that character. What gives her the right?!?!
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Coralmist agree my mother believed I was faking my tourette's and she tried to beat and starve it out of me. When I was younger she made me sit at the table with my food out or reach. She would move it back if I was calm but as soon as id have a tic she'd pull it away. Once my father was done eating everyone had to leave the table so I rarely got to eat my meal. After my sister died she started hitting me and pulling my food away from me. She's just sit next to me and wait. Fear and hunger made my tics worse.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@skmokisses yes I was hoping she'd stop if I unblocked her. If she does that again I will report her.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Cigarguy101 I'm sorry. You must treat your self as if you are a good friend now, or as if you were a child. You say, "I know you felt scared and self conscious to eat, undeserving etc. but those toxic notions were put ON you. No one deserves to not nourish their body..ever. it's a necessity."🌹 And step by step say inside I'll be the one to help you now, say it's ok to eat, it's ok it's more than Ok. 🌷