I need some child/adult relationship advice. Me and my mother.

My mom lost her husband, my step dad, in April. She is currently still living in the house he died in and hasn’t really tried to do anything besides helping my grandparents and babysitting my nephew. How can I help her? How can I help her find something to do without making it seem like she has to do it.

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markinkansas · 61-69, M

ask her to help you do something that takes two people to do .. then widen the ideas when she helps . like you need a ride to help at a soup kitchen or help at a church food bank.. get her out of the house a little at a time.. baby steps at first

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@markinkansas I like the food bank idea as a way of removing any stored food items that might have been "his" rather than theirs and might be reminding her whenever she opens the pantry..😷

markinkansas · 61-69, M

@whowasthatmaskedman baby steps .. just like learning to walk again. then soon she will be doing it herself.. she needs to feel useful . is my thought

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@markinkansas I completely agree..It probably insnt time to start clearing the wardrobe of his clothes. But maybe those tins of curried baked beans and beef jerky strips can be used by someone else..😷

markinkansas · 61-69, M

@whowasthatmaskedman there is always someone who can use help.. if you make this her idea it wil be easier.. if she believes its her idea.. so ask her things like what should we do with the cans of beans ya dont like .. maybe help the poor or church or .. ect.. best to ya.. and her