I need some child/adult relationship advice. Me and my mother.

I agree, what your mom is doing would be very similar for so many of us, including not wanting to burden those close to us with often deep hurting thats happening inside of us. Being there for her is really important, support her to mix or find a group in similar circumstances, that will get her going somewhere when they meet to chat about new interests. Those interests, new hobbies, or what ever will pass more different time. Time mostly helps us getting to different places less grief consuming..
Your regular help, and support will make a difference.😊

The grieving process is different for everyone. Some people bounce right back and can push forward. Others throw themselves into activities to occupy their time to keep their minds off for their troubles. Some like to be surrounded by their loved ones belongings and even smells of their former partner.
She may be the latter. She needs tto heal at her own pace and what's comfortable to her. I know u do not understand her not being able to move on as quickly, but she just needs to find herself and way to adjust.
Be patient with her. Offer her opportunities to leave the house with u to do some things. Give her ur love and attention to help take her mind off of reality for a while.

I suggest just inviting her to join you for different things and not pressure her or be upset if she prefers not to. Having said that, sometimes it helps when you are in a slump if someone gives you a little nudge.

She will have to grieve in her time and her way. Just be there for her when she needs you. Don’t overwhelm her with your presence.I always grieve for a long time. Let her know you will be there for anything.

Youre a very kind and thoughful daughter. Be there for her
Keep in touch with her daily. I know she will appreciate it!

Ask her for familiar help. The babysitting is a good example. Did she used to bake before? help in a garden? She will not be actively looking. She is a deer in the headlights now. But offering her the familiar will help her find her feet.😷

You can suggest activities or classes for the two of you to try together. You could find out where she's always wanted to go, or something she's always wanted to try. See if dhe wants a pet, a garden, a hot tub?lol The possibilities are endless.

Maybe talk to one of her friends.....And just ask them to get out for coffee or a drink to at least get her back among the living.....And people mourn all differently as well!!!!Good luck!!

ask her to help you do something that takes two people to do .. then widen the ideas when she helps . like you need a ride to help at a soup kitchen or help at a church food bank.. get her out of the house a little at a time.. baby steps at first

Im sorry for your loss. Everyone deals with grief differently. What makes you feel she needs to be helped?

Find her a light job vacancy near her that she can do easily, and convince her that it will help her change her mood and move on in life with the loss of her husband.

Why does she need something more to do? She sounds busy enough

Just leave her be, it may be her way of dealing with her loss.