My husband and I don't want kids but our parents want grandkids, how should I tell them?
He and I talked and decided we didn't want kids before marrying, but our parents said they hoped for grandkids someday.
26-30, F
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dancingtongue · 80-89, M
So they can spoil them and then hand them back to you. Tell them when they are ready to assume full 24-7 responsibility for them for the first 18 years, then you'll consider it. And provide proof they will still be living in 18 years. 🤪
As much as we enjoyed our grandkids, we never pressured our kids nor did anything without being sure it was within their parenting rules. Largely because of the constant pressure, unwanted advice, and undermining influence of my mother-in-law with our kids. My oldest has not had kids. Youngest had two and they have raised them admirably. Been glad to have been involved in babysitting, carpooling, etc., but if they had chosen not to have them -- and since both have had demanding 24-hour careers, it would have been understandable if they did -- that would have been OK too.
Tell them if they want grandkids that badly, adopt one or two. There are a multitude out there needing foster homes.
As much as we enjoyed our grandkids, we never pressured our kids nor did anything without being sure it was within their parenting rules. Largely because of the constant pressure, unwanted advice, and undermining influence of my mother-in-law with our kids. My oldest has not had kids. Youngest had two and they have raised them admirably. Been glad to have been involved in babysitting, carpooling, etc., but if they had chosen not to have them -- and since both have had demanding 24-hour careers, it would have been understandable if they did -- that would have been OK too.
Tell them if they want grandkids that badly, adopt one or two. There are a multitude out there needing foster homes.
