My uncle told my brother and I that he plans to put my grandmother in a nursing home in the next week or so.

@Nebula He has been caring for her... but, he is having a lot if difficulty. She has dementia. She finds a way to get out of the house when he's gone. She gets scared that something has happened to him. See gets out, falls down, the fire department comes, etc.

@perceptivei My mother escaped from a nursing home. She rolled out of the door after midnight in her wheelchair and raced away down the town’s main drag. The home was looking for her but the police found her, unharmed.

The officer said, “She’s such a nice lady. A real lady!”

She was. Her flight was actually to find someone to report her suspicions to. She thought the male patients were getting the nurses pregnant. There are times when it’s hard to determine who has dementia and who doesn’t.

@Mamapolo2016 Yeah. It's really sad.

@perceptivei It's hard, but if she has dementia and leaves supervision she needs she needs a locked unit and 24-hour care/supervision. My brother-in-law was in assisted care, and had not shown signs of dementia so wasn't in a locked unit. His daughter called, said his adult grandson was in town and they were coming over to have lunch with him. He got so excited, he got out of bed, dressed himself, got in his wheelchair, presumably got confused and went out to find them, left the facility when no one was looking. They called the police and found him a couple blocks away, toppled over in an intersection. Fortunately did not get hit, but took 18 stiches to close a stitch in his scalp and died later that died. As sad and hard it is, it is for her own good. As limited as her mobility may be and as hard as it may be to assist her, once she is in, if you can take her out for an hour or two occasionally it will make both of you feel better (even if she puts up an argument about going back). When my later partner was in Assisted Living I picked her up most days for a few hours at home each day to be in familiar surroundings, see her cat, etc. Despite the occasional argument over going back, it was good for both of us. I just could no longer do 24/7 like I had for my late wife previously.